SD19 and DH have discovered Venmo
SD whines for money and DH whines about the drive to get it to her, but not anymore. He gets paid to PayPal and has a PayPal debit card now. At some point he deposits what he's accumulated into our bank account to help pay the bills. Lately SD has been working with DH. So she then claims she can pay him back. When she works with him he gets the money for both their hours and then he pays her out of it.
Looking at our bank account activity which I don't do very often I notice that he's been using Venmo to pay her a $20 here, a $40 there, $200, $10, etc...there is only 1 deposit in the last 3 months from PayPal to our bank account and the majority of that went to requests for money from her. I dont see any amounts that would indicate what she would get paid for a day's work. He could also just give her the cash for that from the ATM using his PayPal debit card since she gets a ride from him every time she works with him.
Really makes me wonder how much cash is going her way. I'm not working just so he has more money to give her. I also noticed that one of the days he was harping on me about a purchase I made was the one of the days he sent her money. I saw his Venmo feed which has a place for comments on each transaction sent. Some of them things like "just because" "to make your dad more broke" "to quit bugging me".
DH is always lecturing about how we have to quit nickle and diming the bank account for things. Is him giving her all these little supposed loans the same thing? I brought this up to him too. He didn't have a reply. Few hours later he gets a call from SD. It had to be about money. She only calls him if she needs something. A few seconds after he answered he gets up and goes to the kitchen out of ear shot. I asked him later why he did that. He said he probably had to go spit, but when I walked in he was standing by the table.
He is lying to me and its really pissing me off.