School lunch is gross
Every Monday DH gives SD16 money to buy food while she is at school. They have off campus for lunch. I've said she gets free meals at the school or she could pack a lunch from what we have but she says the food at school is gross and says she doesnt want a lunch from home so he keeps giving her money. Then we get a bill from the school for $180 owed for school meals. I call the district office and speak to the Nutritionist. Turns out I messed up and the free meals expired in October of last year. The account shows breakfast and lunch nearly everyday. DH says SD says she has no idea how it happened and someone must be using her account. Then the other story is she has a friend who can't afford to buy food and she was letting this friend use her account.
DH is offended and doesnt believe the suggestion that she was eating school meals while telling him she thinks its gross so she can pocket the money every week he would give her to buy food elsewhere.
Suddenly SD isnt going to school early anymore and is eating breakfast at home before she goes. I would never deny anyone food especially a child. I have no problem making sure the balance on the meal account gets paid. I do think its natural consquences that SD has to spend her pocketed money on food like it was intended. It must be frustrating for her to maintain her lie and not be profiting from it anymore.
Then I've been looking for a certain hair care product of mine that SD likes to use. I've been hiding it because she wastes it and takes it with her to friends houses and leaving it. Now its disappeared from its spot on the shelf in my bathroom. So I take a look for it in SD's room. I didnt find it but I did find her stash of weed. The weed she swears she tried once and would never do again. Her dad always swore what a great and responsible kid she is who would never smoke weed. I showed it to him and he got mad at me for taking it. He says I should have left it where it was. Marijuana might be legal in our state but it's not legal for a minor. She is also heavily involved in sports and drugs are not tolerated.
I told DH this is insane and walked away.