We started our weekend off with a "something wrong discussion" with munchkin SD13. Essentiall DH doesnt know anything at all, just what he is being fed. And wants me to stay out of it. I probably should really back out of it. Not my kid.

Just a little bit of an update.

Last night, while driving Munchkin home from her gmas house, we got into one of our many anti-Feral Forger conversations. We seem to get caught up these tense feedback loops whereby she will go into details of how lazy, mean and rude her sister is. And then reminisce about her past transgressions. I can see that she is hurt, and resentful. Shes normally so sweet and loving, and I think sometimes I encourage this releasing of resentment, because she feels safe with me and because I lived it too at one time.

So, Ive been here a little while. And while things arent perfect, they have been good for some time now, since I started a wonderful new job, and we are still in the process of buying our house that weve been renting - and good news we are almost there. Just the closing disclosure, and closing documents and we are done.

My issue today is what I THINK is Munchausen by proxy. However it shakes down (sorry for earthquake reference its 30 year anniversary and all over the news here in California) I am concerned for Munchkin SD13.

All this long 5 years and a few months of being with DH, Ive worked to try to figure out all the different ropes of threads of all the different games that Toxic Troll Bm is playing with DH. He might spend 2.5 brain cells on it, which is why I think her games might be effective - he is always in last-minute-respond mode rather than having a plan of any kind. No calculations of moves and counter moves. I give him helpful hints, coach him on the necesity of strong boundaries and how to enforce them.