All this long 5 years and a few months of being with DH, Ive worked to try to figure out all the different ropes of threads of all the different games that Toxic Troll Bm is playing with DH. He might spend 2.5 brain cells on it, which is why I think her games might be effective - he is always in last-minute-respond mode rather than having a plan of any kind. No calculations of moves and counter moves. I give him helpful hints, coach him on the necesity of strong boundaries and how to enforce them.