My sd who went to live with her biohag is STILL verbally targeting me. She emails my dh, calling me YOUR WIFE, talking about how horrible I am etc etc. She is turning 18, she is the one who left our home and ran to bm's and is now working at mcdonalds having to help bm pay her bills. My dh tries not to show me these emails, but it's hard not to see it when he's in bed next to you going through his email. This girl, (even though she is now 18 i will use the word girl because she has the mentality of a 14 year old) from day 1 was a living nightmare.
My house is full, really full. I have 3 teenagers, me and my dh, my inlaws , and my sd's baby in the house this year. My inlaws are putting an addition on to my house and going to live there. right now they have turned our dining room into their bedroom. My sd who had the baby is in my living room, waiting for inlaws to move into addition and then going to take their spot in dining room. we are trying to make this all work along with contractors coming in/out starting at 730 in the morning and leaving at 4pm. I watch baby every other week.
So my DH IS 'tired of always being the bad guy"(bm has no boundaries) and has decided sd16 can do whatever she wants. She has no consequences for things she is supposed to do but doesn't. This is not the person I married. In my eyes he's now just like BM.
I am so frustrated I don't even know what to do except disengage from both of them. This is not the type of person I wanted for my kids.
I am starting to get burned out. My DH and I have a farm, 3 teenagers, 1 grandchild, and my inlaws. My DH is in the military and also has a "civilian" job. I run the house and farm during the day and every other week I watch sd16's baby until she gets out of school at 4pm. The teenagers are very adept at helping to run the farm so it's not a big deal if we have to go out of town for a short time occasionally. Recently , we had a weekend anniversary trip and everything was ok. This week, my DH had to go to D.C.
How many times have I said those words over the past years? But it seems peace and so called "regular" life are an illusion.
Sometimes I wonder why in the hell my dh ever married his ex to begin with. She is completely nuts! She has destroyed her children, disowned one completely, and is a complete narcissistic A-Hole! My dh and I have worked so hard to basically keep her drama out of our lives. Unfortunately one of the sd's recently went to live with her and is pretty much just like her. I have never ever ever in my life met anyone so freakin horrible. Someone who should pretty much be in jail but always gets away with crap.
Some days, I just want to scream. Or go on vacation by myself. I know this is somewhat typical teenage behavior , but what do you all do when you have asked that something be done and one of your kids ignores you?
Since my SD17 left(see my previous posts) I have been slowly recovering and moving forward. I didn't fully realize exactly what toll the stress in the house was taking on everyone until she left and we all could start breathing again. The negative vortex was turning me into someone I could barely recognize anymore. My own 2 bios were completely stressed out and my younger sd was stressed.
I met my DH 9 years ago and we got married a couple years later. He has 2 daughters who are now 17 and 16 and I have 2 bios who are 17 and 15. I know, 4 teenagers right!!! I believe at first my dh and I were naive in that we thought we could blend a family. I did not know what I was up against as far as BM went at all. She was unmedicated with huge mental health issues, had disowned a teenage son from another marriage, and a completely horrible person.