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I am posting this link and the some of text from the site because it in may be helpful to people who may not recognize the methods abusers will use. I have been in a seemingly perfect relationship where verbal abuse evolved into physical violence when I started to pull away from the relationship. While getting help with the DV and stalking, information was shared with me that I had to receive after being physically assaulted,and it was then that I knew I had missed or ignored all the signals and signs along the way.
I have been involved in a wonderful relationship for many months now. I very much love my partner, and see him as a part of my future. We haven’t been together long, but we both feel that we have known each other for many years. He has 2 wonderful children. I adore them completely. I think of them often, and they make me feel like I am a part of their family. He also has an ex-wife, who has become a very good friend of mine.
I don't want them to live with me, I love them, but I don't want them here. I don't know why, SS12 is actually behaving now, but I fear this is just the calm before the storm. SS14 makes me want to tear my hair out, he has been living with BM for almost a year now, and I don't feel he is ready to come hme yet, not untill he can respect Dh and I, and the other children in this house. I have 4 other children to consider I love "all" of my children, but I sometimes need a break from all of them. But mostly I just need a break from my SS's.
DH told him to write a list. We've been teasing him "I know what you got for Christmas, hahahahahaha!" LOL! So he said, well I thought you guys already got me something so why make a list? I said, because we didn't really, we are just teasing you. Of course.......we already have bought him and SD both their gifts!
But anyways...this is his list. It consisted of 5.
1. 120 GB for Hard drive for my Xbox 360.
2. $100.00 spending spree at the mall.
3. New customized skateboard (under $200.00)
4. New pair of shoes.
5. Family & love.
Joel SchwartzbergEssayist, Author of "The 40-Year-Old Version"
Posted: December 1, 2009
What Remarried Dads Owe Their Stepmom Wives
When Hollywood superstar Sandra Bullock married TV celebrity Jesse James, she took on the most challenging part of her life - not just his wife, but stepmother to his five-year-old daughter Sunny.
Has anyone else read this article in Time magazine about helicopter parents? http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1940395-3,00.html. Crayon this one is right up your alley, girl.
It isn't completely step-related, but I am willing to bet we will all see a little of DH or BM in the article. For instance I wonder why my SD16.5 can't self-entertain.....
As many of you know I've posted about my adult step daughter issues recently (in forums under adult stepchild issues; "entitled SD" and "How do I detach".
So, I've decided to go to a therapist to get all this off my chest but I haven't told H about it yet. I want to but here's one example why I haven't (his defensiveness). This is from this morning:
Just got off the phone with DH and I feel like crying. I told him that we needed to talk about 'us' and his tone immediately changed to one with anger in his voice. "Talk about what!?" he said.
Hi everyone, it's me again...the stepmom who has the sd living with us who is rude to my family as well as her dad. Well my husband and I are still not on speaking terms. This past weekend I had a family party(my family) and he and his daughter decide they want to go home. I informed him I would take them home since I and my daughter were enjoying our family get together. Well he got upset and since then we have not spoken. As they both left my relatives house neither said their goodbyes. This is an ongoing issue with them.
Lets go back in time to 1987. (21 years ago) It's a normal sunny day.
A young man is in the work force learning the trade of being a machinist.
He has lived most of his life fatherless, he had a step father but he was absent at best, and drunk and abusive the other times.
SD14 had a basketball game yesterday. She did not tell us about it. She hung up the basketball schedule for the away games which does not start until next week. But the home games she "forgot in her locker". BF came home from work and said she had a game. I did not know anything about it. SD14 had shown me all the plays she had to remember... but nothing about a game.
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