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New to the site and desperate for help

peka's picture

My husband and I have been together for 10 yrs. His youngest daughter is now eleven. Her and I have always gotten along. We have never had any trouble until the past 1 1/2. When I was 6 months pregnant with our first son I noticed that she began following her father around the house. She never left his side. I brought this to my husbands attention and he said I didn't give her enough attention. Every time I ask her to do something he claims I am too hard on her. Now that our son is 8 mths old and we are expecting another in 5 mtns things are worse. She is still following him around.

SS3 said "I don't love you...."

StepCHill's picture

So today DBF gets a random text from the ex (DumbBunny) about how they need to "talk." She says that she dosen't like how they have been fighting so much and its not good for little guy. He agrees that its not good, however she is the one freaking out and cursing in front of him and just going bananas. So after about 1/2 day of her berading him with txts he finally was like "whatever, ok." This makes me nervous, not because I think she is going to make a move or anything, just because its never as simple as "just talking." She has something up her sleeve.

SS12 is such a brat!

vgill's picture

First thing this morning he starts a fight because he has no clean clothes and we went over this 2 months ago, if he wants clean clothes he has to wash them, especially after the way he talks to me like I'm his maid. He just went on and on about how stupid we were and that we should know that he needs his laundry done and that we should do it for him like we do for the younger kids.

Mixed Feelings

g-force's picture

I have been married two years today and feel like my step-sons although their needs are reasonable are taking all my energy and attention. I want to be a family with my husband and natural son (21 months) and resent my older boys (3 step-sons) for all their needs. I want to get closer to them, they clearly want me to, but I feel like they are going to engulf me. I know I have issues and am seeking help on this and other issues.

Another step in the right direction...

Last-Wife's picture

DH stood up to BM today and told her not to call ME again. Yea, honey!

I debated last week if I should send BM a sympathy card cause I had finally disengaged from her, but felt bad her grandfather died. I had kids give her the card when she picked up SS14 on Friday. I guess she thought that opened the lines of communication again, because she called 4 times over the weekend; which I ignored each one.

She called last night about SS15 ballgame tonight. I sent text and told her to call DH- I was not involved in plans.

UGH! I cant stand BM

wishing upon a star's picture

Crap! BM is asking for more child support, Okay I know that she is entitled to but c'mon we just moved in to a new home. Its been 9 mos. I even had to get rid of my car so we can live comfortable. We have a big back yard with a swing set and a trampoline. My daughter 16 has her own room and my SD 10&8 share a room together.

Talk about an awesome Step Father.

BMJen's picture

My husband is a awesome SD. I say it because my son is full of shit 99% of the time and my husband continues to love, take care of, and support my son. Listen to this.....you'll be amazed. So last night when we got home from grocery shopping my son got out of the car, and left his door wide open. No one realized it because we were carrying in the baby, groceries, etc. This morning when we go to the car there it is.........open. Wide open. It rained here last night. The freaking cat was all cuddled up under the steering weel.

Mon thru Thurs

miskittius's picture

All I have to say is, I am so glad its during the week. Unfortunatley because lil dude wakes me up sooo early, I havent been able to sleep in. And last night I woke up with next to nothing on and totally though lil dude was home and I freaked out saying to BF, OMG, I need to put more clothes on, he was like, Babe, why? i was so out of it I really thought it was the weekend. WOW!!! scared the H E double hockey sticks out of me.

My 2yr old BD got a hold of my cell phone and "sent" BM 15 texts of nonsense!

Catlover's picture

So today I noticed that my little BD had gotten a hold of my blackberry. I of course had to chase her around the house to get it back...praying the whole time that she hadn't dialed my boss or anything. I get a hold of my phone and check to see if she had "called" anyone. Phew! it was empty. Then just on a whim I checked my text mailbox (as she looooves to press those buttons) and Lo and behold! There was BM's cell phone that popped up 15 times in a row with MESSAGE SENT next to it. I checked all the messages, and all of them are something like:

Would you or have you extended the Olive Branch to BM?

Rainbow.Bright's picture

So it's been on my mind lately. I want the conflict to end. I want the pettiness to end. I don't want BM hating me and being so vapid in her remarks and actions. She is too proud to ever extend a hand, but I don't think she'd take an act of peace from me. I want to beleive she is human, and feels like she wants to overcome the negativity and hatred, but I could be wrong.

Has anyone made the first peace offering to BM? If so how did you do it, and did it work? If not, would you consider doing it and how would you?

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