So SO and I used to get upset with OSD because literally not even a month after buying her new clothes she would cry she didn't have anything to wear. We assumed she was leaving them at BMs so she could get more clothes from SO because BM only spends money on herself.

Well exBF recently told me that BM would take OSDs new clothes for herself and he used to get annoyed with her and say it's not SOs responsibility to provide her with clothes. He said he thought it was pretty scummy of her to steal from her own kid. 

Because YSD was texting SO and  I BM took her phone away. SO has been upset he has no way to contact her. The one time he text BM about it she just talked in circles and gaslighted him, as to be expected.

He has been in contact with the counselor and workers and they have updated him on her. But SO became frustrated because they can't do anything to address the issue other than make suggestions.

I spent the day with some girlfriends yesterday and we had some interesting conversations. One of my friends was raised by a very narcissistic mother and had some interesting perspectives.

We were talking about teenagers and how typically during the early teen years most kids don't want anything to do with thier parents and often find them embarrassing.

I laugh because I remember feeling this way and now DS is currently doing it to me. Recently we went to an event and he chose to sit at a table with one of my guy friends who is younger vs sitting with me. 

It's been 3 weeks since YSD PASd out and it's been absolute bliss.

Counseling has been great. BMs exBF and I text regularly sharing war stories we have our own little support group. It's been very therapeutic. Poor guy received the same exact treatment as I did.

SO has come around and is starting to become his old self. He has been a lot less moody and more focused on our relationship and the things he can control.  He has mad the decision to not take legal action against BM for violating the court order and to let sleeping dogs lie.