OMG I forgot what normal feels like
It's been 3 weeks since YSD PASd out and it's been absolute bliss.
Counseling has been great. BMs exBF and I text regularly sharing war stories we have our own little support group. It's been very therapeutic. Poor guy received the same exact treatment as I did.
SO has come around and is starting to become his old self. He has been a lot less moody and more focused on our relationship and the things he can control. He has mad the decision to not take legal action against BM for violating the court order and to let sleeping dogs lie.
He received a nasty, mouthy, threatening text from YSD yesterday demanding he take the parental controls off her phone. He said he responded if she keeps it up he will just disconnect the phone altogether. He told me her now acting like OSD because she lives in the land of lawlessness makes him have second thoughts about wanting YSD to come back at all.
He received several phone calls from concerned parents who don't want OSD anywhere near Thier teenage daughters, citing she is a bad influence and complete deliquent. SO happily referred them to call BM with Thier concerns.
We went out on a date and had a great time and now I am making plans for me and DS are going to do this weekend. It's so nice to not be strapped down anymore because of SDs behavior or stressed out all the time.
It's enjoyable that BM actually has to deal with her own kids for once. I hope she is fully enjoying the experience..
We even did the math, even if BM did file for custody she would only get $150 in CS a month. That's a win for SO because one SD eats that much in a week. She would actually be shooting herself in the foot, which would be very amusing.
She would have more expenses those kids waste food like I have never seen before, leave all the lights on, take hour showers and BM has to pay for her own garbage in her new place.
Plus she would have to make sure both SDs made all Thier appointments and she would have to meet with the service providers all the time.
I really hope BM files like she claims she is going to. That would be great!!! Of course until she ends up homeless for the 100th time because she can't afford her rent plus the other expenses. But because of the eviction laws that gives us til September. I would count on the child tax credit helping her but what she would get wouldn't cover her expenses and poor spending habits.