A different perspective
I spent the day with some girlfriends yesterday and we had some interesting conversations. One of my friends was raised by a very narcissistic mother and had some interesting perspectives.
We were talking about teenagers and how typically during the early teen years most kids don't want anything to do with thier parents and often find them embarrassing.
I laugh because I remember feeling this way and now DS is currently doing it to me. Recently we went to an event and he chose to sit at a table with one of my guy friends who is younger vs sitting with me.
So I find is fascinating how both SDs 13 and 15 definitely feel this way about their father, but not BM.
I have met people who have worked with her in the past and have never heard anyone say a nice thing about her. Actually their opinions are usually pretty brutal.
The one friend BM does have is in the same level as BM. She doesn't want to work, sits home on disability and gives her kid mountain dew in a baby bottle.
The best description I can give of BM is imagine Joy from the show my Name is Earl and age her 30 years but she still dresses and acts the same.
SDs always brag about how wonderful and amazing BM is, they post daily selfies with BM saying how they love their beautiful mommy so much.
So my friend explained to me that BM is basically a 14 year old child so they can relate to her that's why they think she is so wonderful. That was very enlightening for me because I never thought of it that way.