Was this handled appropriately

Or should SO have taken the higher ground?

YSD text him yesterday repeatedly after 3 weeks of BM taking her phone. He ignores her at first because he is still upset he didn't hear from her at all Father's Day and for how she has treated him.

Prior to her exit 2 months ago SO was told daily by YSD how she absolutely hates his guts, he is not her father and so on.

After leaving she refused visitation, counseling, basically any contact with him stating her reason being she will not see him until he takes the parental app off her phone.

He finally responds to her saying. You have refused to see me or have anything to do with me because I won't take the app off your phone.

Your mother takes your phone for 3 weeks and you still love her and want to be with her.

You tell me you hate my guts because I treat you like a baby and put an app on your phone. How many times did you tell your mother you hate her for taking your phone away?

I didn't see or here from my own children on Father's Day and that broke my heart. My own kids tell me they want nothing to do with me and you want me to act like I am okay with that?

On a side note things are getting less fun at BMs because she has a new victim she is working on and she forgets she has kids when she focused on securing a new target.

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I think it is important that

I think it is important that teenagers know the effects of their behavior. Teaching empathy or if they are beyond that, at least your husband knows that he has a narcissist child.

I think he handled it well

Your husband has the absolute right to tell his daughter that her cruel behavior is unacceptable and hurtful. It's the truth.

Parents have feelings too.

Parents have feelings too. People and relationships are breakable. Kids need to know that. And if you have hurt someone they have every right to call you on it. She needs to know she hurt her dad!

It needed to be said. She

It needed to be said. She needs to know that just because he is her dad and he loves her unconditionally, she does not get to treat him like dirt and that's okay.

She also needs to learn that she does not get to set the terms of their relationship, so I hope he does not give in to her demands. He can take the app off and then it will be something else, and something else, and something else.

He said nothing wrong. He did not sink to her level. He was not demeaning, he said nothing hurtful, just told her some truths. Considering the stuff that she's said to him and how disappointed he must be in his kids, how messed up they are, he did take the higher ground.

I remember I had done

I remember I had done something I shouldn't have when I was young (probably younger than 7/8 and I don't even remember what it was) at my Grandma's (we were very close). She told me she loved me very much but she didn't like me right now and I needed to go sit in the dining room and wait for my mom. To this day those words really put things into persepective. I think it is important for kids to understand that loving somone doesn't mean supporting bad behavior.