Yeah, so DH complaint today was that YSD, now 14, didn't jump on the choice to spend Sunday with dad to celebrate her turning 14. I shouldn't have commented....but I said that well, you gave her a choice, you cannot be mad that she made a choice.

Then it was well she should know better. I said, why? Both SDs have always been able to make their own choices, which in kids is self-serving. They're not taught otherwise. So why would they make a choice that isn't what they want, but may be better for all?

I called it - not going into too much detail but she's likely going to HS near BM, of course!

DH found out last night she's going to the tour of that school. 

DH has also NOT arranged for her to go on a tour of the school near us...but I think they might do that as a class in the middle school anyway.  YSD has not said a word about it.  She's clearly keeping to herself, barely talking with us and not wanting to get together with any of her friends from her current school.

Through without any drama!  Almost!

SD has been with us for 9 days, leaves tomorrow.  All has been pretty good. I just didn't do as much as usual.  I had to cook Xmas eve dinner which was supposed to have been done by DH - he knew I was p*ssed about that but did make it up in cleanup and help the next day so on Xmas I didn't have to do a thing.  Plus, I only made a couple things.  And drank a good amount of bubbly.  LOL!

DH and I agreed no meeting with BM will take place. DH is going to see if counselor will meet with us via phone conference, me, DH and counselor only. My schedule is very difficult and counseling office is hard to get to ... This was DHs idea, good on him. PAS will be brought up. Finally DH has agreed PAS is happening...and we'll go over some info on it together this weekend.