I called it - not going into too much detail but she's likely going to HS near BM, of course!

DH found out last night she's going to the tour of that school. 

DH has also NOT arranged for her to go on a tour of the school near us...but I think they might do that as a class in the middle school anyway.  YSD has not said a word about it.  She's clearly keeping to herself, barely talking with us and not wanting to get together with any of her friends from her current school.

DH wasn't shocked, but wasn't happy.  I think he had some little hope she'd choose our area (it's a better, smaller, more specialized school).  DH agreed to go to a counseling session with YSD and BM to talk about it.  I am NOT going. 

He also found out BM sill tucks them into bed and still does the SAME bedtime routine they have been doing since they were little.  It was shocking to hear that - literally treating YSDstb14 like a toddler/5 yo.  NO WONDER she's got issues about growing up.  NO WONDER estranged SD16 wanted to rule at our house as the special one.

The PAS is strong and I am done.

I think we'll give living at our current home another year - our mortgage is much less than rent if we move closer to down, although there are certain advantages of no house!  And my two cats do not do well in apartments.  But I'm thinking one year from June we'll know what do to.

ADD: got home late this night. YSD chatted a bit with me. Told me she had "an event" at the other school tomorrow but refused to tell me what it was. "I don't know" and "I don't really understand it" is what she said - clearly lying. I just said, well it's wierd you are going to an event and don't know what it's about...as she physically squirmed. It was sooooo odd.

Then  DH later told me he and YSD got into it again. I made a suggestion about how he, as the parent, could shut it down. Then he tells me, "the only thing more exhausting about that thing is talling about it now."

Oh, ok then. I'm 100% out.