Does jealousy makes SD run Luke warm and Cold? Or is it Me?
She runs luke warm & cold with me! Since they were older when I came into the picture, I have always kind-of left the ball in both SD's courts as far as what kind of relationship they were comfortable having with me. I don't throw myself at them...lets go here..let's do this..call them to chat..push a relationship..or anything but I have made many, many gestures towards them over the last 5 years or so....!
The oldest is a B#$%H! Always was, always will be! Her fathers own words! He says oldest SD & I don't get along because I won't "Suck her A##" (pardon the maritime expression) and she is used to being catered too...(like bio-mom)
The youngest has always been more accepting of me. But there is just something about the youngest...I thinks she's sneaky.
She just really rubs me the wrong way, sometimes. We spent a couple hours together one night this week. She is always giving her BF a look whenever I'm speaking!! They began doing that last year.. I noticed that they would give a look, smirk, or tap the others leg, in case one missed the look. I found out what that was about...a few week afterwards. Her BF was out drinking and my BF drove him home...he has loose lips when she's not around. He took the liberty of discusing my BF & I's relationship with my BF...critized me for ever mentioning my X's name in his presence..."how do put up with it" "I couldn't stand for that..if SD did that to me..blahblahblah...
BF immediatly runs back to me. WHAT THE HELL BUSINESS IS IT OF SD or HER BF!!!!!!
It's rediculous.I don't do it that often....but we do have contact..I discuss my X issues with my BF, etc. There is no problem!
So that's what the "looks", leg taps, etc were for back then....
I don't know what her problem is now! I think there is some jealously between her & I because she & Dad used to be inseparible. When we first started dating...she was in a tournament out of province..and wanted him to go...but made it clear that I was not welcome!! He said if she doesn't go ..I don't go!!!! And he didn't go!!! I think that was the first time in her life...she wasn't number 1! I don't think she'll ever get over it....
I don't quite trust her. Maybe it's because of who her mother is..and older sis is much, much like mother as well... I can see it in little sis..but she is 1/2 her Dad too...so there's hope for her. (The oldest is not his biological daughter..came with mother..but he adopted her when she was still young)