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How to talk about PAS?

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Quick recap: DH and BM have been arguing over CS since April/May-ish and BM has been keeping (and we think alienating) SS11 from us since September.  SIL, who lives in the same town as SS,is having a party this weekend and somehow got permission for SS to attend.  None of DH’s family has really been able to see or talk to SS since September either other than running into him or when MIL went to BM’s to see him but he refused to see or speak to her.

Do we just give in?

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Long story short, we have been going through a CS battle since April/May-ish -I can't even really remember at this point.  We live in Mexico so obviously laws are different, but the gist of it is that BM (who lives with her husband and SS11 in a small town about 5 hrs from DH and I) managed to get CS increased WITHOUT any say from DH.  The server "notified" DH through our previous lawyer (who filed CS and custody for us SEVEN years ago in the same courthouse) and now we're just pretty much going in circles trying to undo what's already been done.  DH's lawyer just keeps saying "don't worry

Finally able to talk to SS

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So apparently FIL was able to get SS11's cell phone a new battery, replace the SIM card and gave DH and I his new number on Sunday morning.  DH calls SS, gets no answer and then gets blocked.  DH calls FIL to make sure it's the right number and apparently while he was calling SS, FIL was on the landline talking to SS and heard GBM yell at SS for giving DH his new number.  He says SS got nervous and hung up the phone with him.  This woman is worse than BM, seriously.  So SS sends DH a message via instagram and they talk for a bit and DH mentions picking him up and taking him to buy new schoo

SKs finally seeing "the truth"

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Does this ever happen?

I have a coworker who knows a bit about my situation, and he told me about two of his adult kids who refuse to see/speak to him because of PAS from their mother growing up.  He didn't tell me ages or specifics about their situation, just that they are both adults and that he hasn't seen or spoken to either of them in years.


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I was talking to FIL last night about SS11 refusing to see us this weekend and he mentioned that SS had been in contact with FIL's GF via FB messenger.  When his phone broke about two months ago he told me he had deactivated his account but apparently they gave him a tablet and he's been reaching out that way.  I figured I would send him a message and try to talk to him.  Well, when I went in I couldn't find him on my friend's list, so I went into an old message he had sent and I got an error message saying I was no longer able to respond to that conversation because he blocked me.  It was

update - we did NOT get to see SS

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So DH and I decided to bite the bullet and spend the money to go see SS11 (5 hrs away) on the off chance that he would change his mind about seeing us.  DH called BM mutliple times Friday and Saturday and SS refused to speak to him and apparently kept saying he didn't want to see or talk to DH.  While we were on the road, DH told BM that we were already on our way and would be stopping by to see SS no matter what.  He said he would not force SS to come with us, but we were going to at least go by her house to see him and talk to him.  BM tried to say that DH must have done something to SS a

one step forward, one million steps back

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BM and DH have been at ends over CS for a while and it's been getting pretty bad because we live in MX and let me tell you that the corruption here is BEYOND ridicilous.  BM managed to have DH served at his mother's house (we live in a different state) thanks to a nice little "gift" that her lawyer suggested they pay the server.  Our lawyer had already warned us that the judge assigned to our case was not only 100% pro BMs but also 100% AGAINST fathers and we would more than likely have to appeal in order to get a more impartial judge, so the fact the she allowed him to be served this way i