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Grasping at straws...

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This past weekend was my first weekend without YDS.  It was STBexH's weekend to have him.  STBexH was all fine and dandy when he had weekend after weekend kid free....but then it was my turn.  When he picked YDS up he wanted to "talk" and then proceeded to cry and tell me how awful things are and how he misses me and he is so sorry and am I sure that I want a dissolution still.  To which I said yes.  Then he texted me again telling me he talked to his friend and he knows he has a mental illness and needs help and he is willing now to get that help so since he is willing to do that now would is gonna be a long road...

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As stated in my last blog I'm getting a dissolution.  Done with DH.  Over the BS and manipulative and controlling behavior.  I was trying to be nice and civil but you can't do that with an idiot narcissitic person.  I had given him until the end of the month to move out (not sure why he was still wanting to stay other than to continue using me anyways).  Well this weekend he was extremely adamant about changing the phone bills (basically taking me off his plan).  No big deal and it needed done anyways.  For the past week he has been talking about thinking he made a mistake and wanting to "r

It has been a while!

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It has been almost a year since I've been on here.  After my last blog I still thought that I could try to work things out with my DH.  Turns out I just wasted almost another year trying with that Sad I guess I just had to be really sure for our YDS's sake.  The past month with him has been draining and exhuasting but now he is playing the victim and he is ready to leave...I'm assuming because he found some potential new victims to drain.  2 weekends ago he went and met his ex in a par

O/T - Question about toxic relationships

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Okay, over time I have finally come to realize that I myself am in a toxic relationship with my DH.  This is hard to admit because I love him and I wanted things to work but I'm starting to realize that I don't think it will.  I actually have a few questions:

1) Can people really change if they have some narc traits?  Are they capable of changing?

2) How can you leave someone that doesn't want to leave?  I mean I know you just do it but are there any tips on how to make it less dramatic and painful?

Knew this was coming....

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In one of my previous blogs I think we all joked/made bets on SD's next injury.  I think we all guessed wrong but can't remember.  Anyways, here is the update on her current "injury"...but at least this year she made it to the final game, that is an improvement.  If anyone guessed "sports induced asthma attack" in the previous blog you are a winner!

Just checking in

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I haven't made a blog or update or even been on ST in a while so here is my update/checking in.  I don't really have much exciting to report other than I have been trying to disengage even more from SD and MIL than before.  SD is still super annoying and attention hungry on her visits.  She is 13 at what age do skids stop desperately seeking attention and self entertain?!?!

The excuses are starting to surface...

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Last night was DH's night to have SD. When they first arrive she starts talking to us and is going on about how she is starting to not like softball because her coach is "mean" and all about winning and being competitive.  Um...I thought that was the whole point of sports was to try to win and do your best but I guess not if you've grown up in the everyone gets a trophy society!  I guess her "mean" coach won't let her pitch and according to SD pitching is the only part of softball she is good at and so she is mad that the coach won't let her. 

O/T - Big Ol' Babies

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I have to know, am I the only one with a DH that is a complete man child when he is "sick"?!?!?!  I STG I am so over being married right now!  At approx 8am my overgrown man baby started complaining that his "intestines hurt".  This is a complaint he has frequently which probably has to do with his awful diet but that won't ever change.  Anyways, I am also annoyed that he says his intestines hurt, trying to make "I have a tummy ache" sound more severe or something...IDK!  Well when he started his whining I told him to take a pepto and/or anti-diarhea pill (we have both at home) and he doesn


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You all are about to see me on a new episode of Snapped if my DH asks me one more time to go to MIL's for dinner just because she is pressuring him to come visit.  I HATE visiting MIL.  When she invites us for dinner just the invite gives me anxiety.  She lives in a small apt that she smokes in which I find super gross and I am leery of her cooking!