Update...it is gonna be a long road...
As stated in my last blog I'm getting a dissolution. Done with DH. Over the BS and manipulative and controlling behavior. I was trying to be nice and civil but you can't do that with an idiot narcissitic person. I had given him until the end of the month to move out (not sure why he was still wanting to stay other than to continue using me anyways). Well this weekend he was extremely adamant about changing the phone bills (basically taking me off his plan). No big deal and it needed done anyways. For the past week he has been talking about thinking he made a mistake and wanting to "really try" with me and he still had love for me. I knew he wouldn't put any real effort but told him, "ok", just so I could def say I myself tried also. His effort lasted all of 2 days of being nice/flirty with me and being upset that I wouldn't have sex with him still. Then he started getting mad that I would bring up/question the whole meeting with the ex BS! And he would say, "this won't work if you keep hounding me about this". Clearly he wasn't trying at all and putting in no effort at all. He just didn't want to move and inconvenience himself. He wanted to drag it out and stay in my home as long as possible b/c clearly he doesn't want to go move in with his mommy.
So back to the phones. He was the main carrier/account holder so we had to call customer service from his phone to do the change of ownership of the lines/separate the bills. They talked to him and then needed to talk to me. I'm out front on my porch on speaker phone with the customer service agent when a text comes in from "ex gf". Even though I was still ending things at this time I was livid. I scrolled through took screen shots of all his texts to her and sent them to my phone to read better after I get off the phone with Tmobile. But a brief glance was something like this "I miss talking to you and kissing you and touching you, sorry I blocked you, my wife is stalking me and arguing with me so I didn't want to unblock you until I moved out".....so yeah...he busted his own dumb@$$ there and although I was livid at the moment I am happy now. I know that he was definitely lying and I made the right decision to continue with the dissolution.
Obviously I told him that he could no longer stay at the house until the end of the month and he needed to GTFO then and not come back except to get his stuff. He still tried to act like "it wasn't like that"...Really!?!?
Today he texts "are you sure we made the right decision" and I was like "I know I did, I won't live with a man that is pursuing another woman, lying to me and sleeping in my bed, it is OVER!"....so then he started getting mean and nasty and wanting me to "own up to my part of the blame of ruining our marriage". WTF?!?! It doesn't matter who is to blame or who is at fault...it is over...leave me alone!!!!
I wanted things to be civil but clearly his immature/selfish/effed up thinking is going to make this a rough road