You all are about to see me on a new episode of Snapped if my DH asks me one more time to go to MIL's for dinner just because she is pressuring him to come visit. I HATE visiting MIL. When she invites us for dinner just the invite gives me anxiety. She lives in a small apt that she smokes in which I find super gross and I am leery of her cooking!
Anyways, I have told DH multiple times since the beginning of COVID and his trashy a$$ mom insisting on visiting and spending time with us more than usual that I am not interested in doing that. DH knows that I am not even that fond of my own mother and barely visit her and would NEVER force him to visit/spend time with her if he didn't want to. I have tried being nice about it but we did get into it previously where I went off about it. How I don't like his mom, I don't have any respect for her, I think she is manipulative and controlling and just annoying to be around. I know he loves her and I'm not trying to prevent him from seeing her but there is no reason I should be forced along!
WTH is wrong with these idiot men!?!? I feel like it is the same reaction I get when I have to remind him of why I am not super close with SD. Why does he act shocked and hurt every time like it is new news?!?! It isn't! I have said this all before yet you choose not to listen and try to trample my BOUNDARY that I am trying to enforce. That BOUNDARY is that I don't want to go see MIL all the time. I suck it up for holidays and special occasions but MIL is weekly trying to manipulate him into visiting. I say that b/c I am pretty sure he doesn't enjoy going to her place either and is alwys trying to drag me along to endure the misery.
Her latest manipulation tactic, she buys a bunch of food to cook out and insists that everyone comes, she sends him Marcos (video messages) and so I hear the whole convo. Last night it was "Hi DH, I'm cooking out ribs on Sat and you have to come eat, your sister will be there, I've got tons of food so you have to come"....okay, I get that inviting people over for a cook out isn't manipulation but then she tells us a time and we get there and she feeds us 2-3 hours later EVERY TIME! Like she holds us hostage with the food. The kids hate it there b/c it is a small smoky apt with no yard and no toys/etc. Plus EVERY single time she manages to do something to gross me out. Once it was after she had her big toenails removed so as we are all sitting there eating she decides to remove the bandages off her big toes and expose her bloody big nasty toes Another time it was her lifting up her shirt and rubbing her large belly talking about how sick she felt b/c she over ate (a thing she does every time). I just can't do it. Hell I'm getting anxiety just writing this blog about it! Also, note that DH's sister's husband NEVER comes to any of these forced get togethers or holidays b/c he also can't stand MIL.
Of course after DH received her Marco/invite/request he looks at me with his "sad" face and asks yet again why I don't want to go. OMG, if looks could kill he would be dead! Stop asking and then getting butthurt because I have to be straight up blunt about my dislike for this woman. I never said he couldn't go! I suggest he goes all the time with SD! LOL! Then he relays the message that he will be there but I won't, and in her raspy smoker voice while baby talking MIL says, "well maybe when she is done being busy she can come"....GIANT CURSEWORD....why are they so damn relentless!!!!