The title isn't misleading...this may end up being my last post. I've only been an official member of this site for over a month, since someone recommended I use this platform to discuss my struggles and to gain support. I'm already questioning if I want to continue voicing my experiences and frustrations. If anyone looks back at my past posts, you will begin to see a pattern in the comments.
SO's son will be starting school next month. He will be going into the same district that his father and I both attended. In our experiences, if the school at all senses that there is an issue at the child's home, they get CPS involved almost immediately. For example, I have dealt with trichotillomania (compulsively pull out my eyelashes/eyebrows) since I was 9 y/o. The school noticed that I had bare spots and called CPS on my parents...even though my parents were not harming me and I did not say anything to the school. CPS finally stopped dropping by after 1.5 years.
SO's son will be starting kindergarten next month. I guess BM received the list of school supplies needed, and asked SO to purchase everything on the list. He told her he couldn't buy everything, but he would split it 50/50 with her. Well, she did not like this response because she then sent a three page rant to SO. To sum it all up, she basically said: "NO, I'll just buy everything on my own. Just like I buy everything else...the house for him, food, clothes, daycare, health insurance, the after school program...." and it continued.
I knew my SO putting his foot down to SS was too good to be true....he let him get away with everything once again.
SO's son will be here for the weekend starting today...this just means more snarky remarks and attitudes from SS. And more frustration when he doesn't get disciplined for the things he does and says. I know SO had a little break through a couple of weeks ago, but I get the feeling he's going to let a lot of bad behavior (if not all of it) slide while SS is here.
Any good articles and/or advice regarding disengaging? When to do it, and how?
Any input is much appreciated.
This last weekend, my SO's son stayed with us. For those who have read past entries, you know how misbehaved, manipulative and defiant this little boy can be. Typically my SO does not stand up or enforce the rules on his son...but this weekend, he finally started standing his ground!
Hello all! I am in need of advise. I have been looking into higher paying jobs. It was brought to my attention that the school district near me has an opening in the field that I have experience in...with excellent pay and great benefits! Plus all of the schools are 10 minutes or less from my house. I am in clerical work, and it is difficult to find a job in my general area that pays enough to live off of, or enough for me to travel far for a position.
It seems like whenever my SO and I make plans or have something to do, BM suddenly needs to drop-off SS and we cannot say 'no'. I understand that it could simply be a coincidence, but this seems to happen more and more. SO and I have not had the chance to spend quality time together recently (we've been swamped with work, birthday parties for our friends children, etc.). SS came to visit last weekend, and this weekend was going to be our time alone. We even had tickets to see a baseball game...we were excited to be able to take a load off and to relax.