This last weekend, my SO's son stayed with us. For those who have read past entries, you know how misbehaved, manipulative and defiant this little boy can be. Typically my SO does not stand up or enforce the rules on his son...but this weekend, he finally started standing his ground!
Here's what happened: my SO wanted to do something fun with his son this weekend, so we decided to go to an outdoor event our city was hosting. It turns out that we arrived a few minutes after the children's portion was over, so we decided to go out to eat instead. While at the restaurant, SO walked around with him and played some of the arcade games that were set-up. Once our food arrived, SS became greedy. He started eating off of his cousin and his grandmother's plates...but he wouldn't share any of his food. His grandma told him to knock it off and only eat the food on his plate. He did not like this and started trying to make her feel guilty for not giving him some of her burger. So she cut him off another piece...about 1/4th of the burger. By now I should tell you all what he has eaten: an ADULT chicken finger and fries meal, some toasted ravioli's (from his cousins plate), some apples and banana's from our friend's babies plate, and now 1/4th of a burger. He is 5 y/o, and about 15lbs overweight for his age/height.
Most of the time that we spent eating, he was asking us about when he would eat next (SS doesn't have a solid eating schedule at his mother's house). I could tell that all of this was starting to irritate SO. SO finished his plate, and stepped outside for a moment. When he returned, SS was still finishing his plate. When the bill came to the table, we gathered our money and prepared to leave. All of a sudden, SO's mother told us that we had to wait because SS wanted the same burger that she had. SO and I stopped and were very confused...apparently his son somehow convinced his grandmother that it wasn't fair that he didn't get an entire burger, along with his chicken fingers. Finally SO told her that SS doesn't need two adult meals and we were leaving right now. When SS heard this, he started trying to plead his case, but SO wasn't having any of it. He used a stern tone (which he rarely does) and told him to stop arguing with us. Of course SS did not give up easily, but we still walked out of the restaurant without ordering him a second meal.
He has done this in the past. He will eat a large portion. And before he is even finished, he will be asking for another meal. Which he has gotten his way too many times. And the most frustrating thing is, when he has gotten that second meal, he will only take 2 bites and then be done with it. He won't even eat it later on if we took the remainder home.
I am thrilled that my SO is finally starting to stand-up and not allowing his son to constantly get his way. It's a small victory, but it is only the beginning.