Not sure what to call this...
SO's son will be starting school next month. He will be going into the same district that his father and I both attended. In our experiences, if the school at all senses that there is an issue at the child's home, they get CPS involved almost immediately. For example, I have dealt with trichotillomania (compulsively pull out my eyelashes/eyebrows) since I was 9 y/o. The school noticed that I had bare spots and called CPS on my parents...even though my parents were not harming me and I did not say anything to the school. CPS finally stopped dropping by after 1.5 years.
Back to SS: a lot of what he says is inappropriate. He compulsively lies (which he thinks is the same as "pranking" someone). He told me that his mom let's him harm himself by jumping off of the roof and other things. When I asked if that was true, he smiled and said "yeah". After I asked again, he said, "pranked ya!". He also tells us that his mom does this 'fun thing' where he's allowed to pee in tiny cups and she gives it to other people for money. To make this shorter, I'll list a few other examples:
- He's constantly talking about death and killing people/animals...he also threatens people with death scenarios (and he thinks it's funny)
- He says that he loves being drunk and that his mom let's him drink alcohol and that she drinks all the time
- He also talks about pipes and bongs (we do not have anything like this at our place)
- He talks about why his mom broke up with a guy or why she isn't friends with someone...and he goes into great detail
- He admits to bullying others and that he is encouraged to fight at his house
- He has mentioned sexual acts
- One of the newest things he's mentioned is that his mom no longers helps him wipe when he finishes in the bathroom, if he asks she yells at him to do it on his own. So he just wipes once, and then that's it. So now he walks around with a rash and itchy bottom.
- We've recently noticed that when BM picks him up, she does not secure him in his seat (he still needs to be in a booster by state law). As soon as he gets in and closes the door, she takes off. He does not know how to buckle himself in - he needs assistance every time.
There's other examples, but I don't want to go on and on. I'm sure we'll hear even more stuff. But with everything, I can't help but think that CPS will be called and be at BM's house often, should he say some of the things that he says...and this could make his home life worse. I can easily understand why. And if everything that he says is actually true (again, he does lie a lot), it's absolutely heartbreaking to me that this is how he is being raised.