Step parenting and a second marriage continue to be challenging! And now, seven years after I was active on this site my own kids are teenagers, same as my husband's were when we got together. My husband's daughter, whom I named Princess on this blogs all those years ago is now almost 28. Married, two kids of her own, financially independent from us, not the state, but from us thank god. My step son will be 26 this year and things are as bad with him as ever. He asked a year and a half ago to move back in with us to "save" up money to buy a house.
Wow, I read over the writings I have deposited on this site. I feel like a silly, self-righteous bitch.
I've been seething in negativity, and I wonder why shitty things are happening in my life.
I have clients ranging from young women in their twenties to men who feel old in their fifties.
The good thing is, the trash bins we explore are ours. A few weeks ago, princess made an appearance at our home.
She did this, of course, while we were not home. We were at my folks' lake place with my two sons.
She knows, because she has been told for a year and a half that she is not to come to our house unless she has informed and been granted permission by her dad, my husband.
We have had salamanders as part of our family for years. They are rare and beautiful creatures, I am in awe of them. Did you know they have the ability to cross fire?
I'm trying to abeit the ways I am hated by pee. It's not easy. He's now 17, he was 14, barely, when I met him and his sister, princess. I've slowly come to realize that I don't feel good about myself when I successfully disengage from his atroticious kids.
I don't desire a relationship with either of them. Nor do I desire to allow their bad character and behavior to have enough power over me to back me into a corner (disengagement).
suspension for pee from school
pee refusing to return to school after suspension was over
pee losing his car due to smoking pot - not putting an impaired driver on the road
pee completely bombing out this trimester
my ex mother in law died, she was a true terror in my life for over ten years
my ex asking me for a job reference (he worked at my clinc) I gave them and they were glowing
my ex sueing me for child support
won the case against the state dept of revenue
It was another of the endless chain of family parties, get togethers, those rare chances to exist freely in this world. Not everyone has a family that feels this way, I feel sad about that. Mine does. And I love it. Today was so much fun, somehow, someway, even with all that is wrong, wrong, truly deepply wrong.
"I know we are working out the child support, but is it possible you can give me money now? I have been trying to get a job for months and finally have a good opportunity for a position in the next couple of weeks. Unfortunately I'm havering (sp) financial troubles now."
That's a mighty tempting text to reply to. But I am not going to. This is testing my discipline.
So I'll share with you all what all my negativity toward hiim would love to say.
There are some women I know that I just love, love, love. They are few and far between, they are bizarre gals and so am I.
In addition to being bizarre, they are the most genuine, loving, compassionate, genteele, honest and loving eyed human beings. Should they see you, you can rest assured you will be cared for past eternity.
Stepmom20, you're going to be fine.
There are some women who emody betrayal in its most intent ways. They do it through their eyes as well as the others give love. You know, the women who emody love.
His ex made her issues the family's manifesto.
I can't see all that's happened with his kids and me the same way I did.
Right now I don't know how I see things, but I know it's shifting from the way I did see things.
I've never encountered a presence like I did today seeing his ex spouse.
I think she felt fear when our eyes met. I think she understood that I see her. I think she understood that I cherish her ex spouse, my husband in the ways she may have wanted to at one time but didn't know how to.
So, what I discovered was Solitare.
So I met my husband's attorney for the first time yesterday. My sister hired her for her divorce, my sister's partner was awarded full and legal custoday (thank goodness, their mother is a crack addict) in a state that will give custoday to a woman six feet under to his children. So I referred my husband to her via my sister (best friend). She impressed the hell out of me. This professional gets it. There were numerous occasions she could have decimated my husband's ex wife.