So confused right now I should be loving disengagement with SD & MIL my choice ( 16 years of non acceptance to late now ) but I feel annoyed at the fact DH has some what picked up from where he left. Visiting some times, phone calls, texts etc. I feel like I've given them the ultimate prize me out there family picture just like they wanted. DH comes home telling me all there family in's & out's & I try not to have an input . DH always said he didn't want to live two lives them & us but that's exactly what's happening,.
So tnite I received a text from SD 29 ( see previous posts ) apologizing because DH told her to, she claims all her toxic vile nasty behaviour was due to her upbringing ( mine was way worse & I never behaved that way ) & that she's bipolar and suffer post traumatic stress hense why she states she was so brutal.
I'm so pissed right now, SD 29 can apologise to DH for all the things she's said & done to him over the 15 years but she hasn't bothered with me even though she told him she would try. She has done some despicable things like using my tooth brush to clean toilet ( I used it after unbeknown ) & so many other discughting vile things & the most evil words.
So following on my last post I went to the .memorial yesterday with DH, SS & DIL & yes SD was there. As I predicted she didn't acknowledge me said hello to DH then started idol gossip about nanna ( DH mother ) my horrible nasty mother in-law which he is now is contact with after 4 years also as she's apparently not well anyway I totally disengaged I gave her nothing I felt very uncomfortable most of evening but chatted with fake SIL quickly then friends.
Help, I have a memorial ( spreading ash's ) of a dear family friend Saterday DH SS DIL & myself will be travelling together SD will be also attending, after only starting talking/ texting DH (all her ) for only just over a week of no contact SD is asking if after the event does " he " want to have dinner with her & other family members I have told DH I won't do this if he would like to I will stay home and let him have family time but he doesn't want that & we compromised we will have a drink with people there then go sit by ourselves & have dinner.
DH decided to take me away camping yesterday for a night sounded great. We packed up feeling great left at lunch time for our 1 hour trip up the river. Half way there his phone rings it's SD he dosnt answer she calls again he ignores it he's driving I swear it's like she's always known when were having a good time or celebrating something bam there she is.
So while at work last night my DH took it upon himself to ring SD explaining my side of issue. He pretty much told her " for now " I'm not interested in anything with her my word was never, he told her F/child will not be involved until he see's she's able to change. I'm feeling annoyed that he only made her wait 2 days when I told him I need time to think what I wanted which after talking with this group I felt confident to express to him but decided to disengage with SD & her family & not reply to her.
Regarding my previous post I have told DH where I stand with SD he claims he understands how I feel but his issue seems to be more with SD foster child 8 she took the child on at the age of 3, between the age of 3 to 4 we saw her around 6 times but SD would always accuse me of not treating her right & the last straw came when we had her on her 4th birthday & she rung asking him what was I doing to her have I hurt her ( we both are with child I took care of her no different to how we love and treat our other beautiful grandbabys ) this was when I said enough we cut contact I told he
After 16 years of putting up with toxic SD (29 y) hate, non accepting, vicious behaviour ( she's bipolar & border line personality I have had no contact for 4 years her choice she is now trying to engage my DH which she has claimed she hates and made his life a misery.