DD14 was in an ATV accident while she was visiting cousins in upstate NY with her dad the day after Thanksgiving. She snapped her humerus in half, lost a kidney, internal bleeding and a chest wound that has required 5 surgeries as of today.

DH and I were in the car about 2 hours north of our home in VA when we got the call that she was in the accident. The 7 hrs to get to her were brutal. 

This is kind of a hot-mess express story but here goes: DH and I find a house and move in together. At the end of our Cul de Sac I realize that an old friend of mine from HS lives there with his wife and kids. Our son's instantly hit it off and I think great! Friends to do cookouts with and stuff, right? Well, he barely speaks to me the 2.5 years we live there. I have a "mom" relationship with his wife- mostly just coordinating who has the boys. Whatever. No big deal. 

Some of you remember the drama between me and my ex over the summer. If you don't a quick recap: He has always been an active dad but out of state most of my kids lives. He just retired from the military and decided that at 41 he didn't want to work anymore and wanted me to drop CS significantly. When I didn't agree he tried to get DD13 (only DD not our son) to come live with him and offered her a few bribes which caused a lot of issues with me and DD. Thankfully things have calmed down and everything is back to normal. DD is no longer angry.

My heart truly breaks for my husband. But then I want to kick him in the balls....

Quick recap on what is currently happening: CS has never been officially determined. 9 years now on temp orders. We are probably underpaying by about $100-150/month in all reality. DH makes a good living, BM probably makes around $15-17 per hour under the table. We have subpoenaed her bank statements and taxes to prove she works but she will not turn them over (Still don't know how that is possible). DH won't agree to a number until she turns over her financials (can't blame him).