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Feeling disconnected

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I haven't seen DH is about 6 weeks (with the exception of 1 day that he was able to come home) and it's still a little while before he will be home.

Being on a ship, we can't talk, all we have is email. He has been under a lot of stress during this time with what they have going on board. Plus add in drama with SS18 and the baby, stopping college funding, finally stopping CS and writing that last check before the end of the month. Our communication has just sucked.

SS18 pregnancy update

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I didn't get back on over the weekend but I did read all your responses. I love this group so much!

GrannyD, her description: Scrawny, bad bleach job, very meth-trailer park vibes. Bullnose ring, slutty clothes, black eye makeup. Just trash. They both looked high as hell in the picture celebrating the beginning of 2nd trimester. 

Welp... SS18 is having a baby

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I know, everyone is SHOOK over it. Totally unbelievable. I know, I know.

We found out because for some reason my BS17's best friend still has SS18 on snapchat. They are apparently in the 2nd trimester and are giving the baby BM's maiden name. Isn't that sweet?

DH is understandably crushed. I'm over here just refusing to acknowledge that my husband will be a grandpa! LMAO

Not that we will ever see this child, but whatever. Good times. 

You guys aren't going to believe this...

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If you remember we were in court to end all the CS bullshit in July. BM lied, got away with it because the judge said he didn't care and wasn't going to hear the trial, that her contempts didn't matter because the case was so screwed up from the begining (yes- because of him and his illegal orders that we had  to get thrown out 2x and his refusal to hold BM accountable ever). 

SS23 is never moving out

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It's like 1 step forward 10 steps back. 

He learned how to cook pork chops. Great! Now he can cook 2 things! 

Then I sent him to get his oil changed and he calls to tell me he spent $190! He said yes to everything the offered. EVERYTHING. AND he was PROUD of himself. SMDH. 

He has no clue about the world. He is so gullible. He makes so many stupid mistakes and I know they aren't his fault. He is still mentally a 15 yr old. I have to remember that. 

SS23 and I have hit a breaking point

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I don't really complain about SS23 much. He's really has become one of my own children and I do love him. He is Autistic and lives with us, but has completed welding school and was recently hired to be a welder at the shipyard near us. He gets paid $27/hr for training and it's 40 hrs a week. His rate will go up once he is done with training.

I haven't felt he was ready to live on his own yet. Dh doesn't either. However, I can't keep living like this. We have to find him a roommate and get him out of my house.

Well, my life is about to get interesting!

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I've posted before about DH going to Japan.

(For those that don't know me, DH is active duty for 24 yrs at this point. His ship is doing a home port change to Japan next year. Due to DD starting her jr. year of HS and SS23's autism and not being able to live on his own but also not being allowed to go, we decided that I would stay behind)

BS17 Depression

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Writing as a pissed off BM right now.

My son (17) has battled with anxiety and depression since he was 14. There were lows where he mentioned he wanted to un alive himself. He has been on medications that have really made a difference. His father has always been against him being on meds. For some unknown reason he is very anti med and thinks fish oil fixes everything.

Being a little stalkery

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Sooo... I miiigghht have a stalker FB account that I have used to see what goes on with SS and to track down things like where BM works- even though it didn't matter in the end.

Anyway, that was how we saw some of SS's graduation pictures, which was cool. We also could see when he played football and basketball. His SF has me blocked but doesn't know how to make his account private... until after court this last time. They found out that it was BM's husband's account that told on her working. So now he is locked down.

The Freaking Audacity of BM

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After almost 2 weeks post court of refusing to acknowledge DH's attempt to work out SS's financial aid, not to mention her trying to say in court that DH wasn't paying- even though we sent a certified letter from our attorney to her attorney, her and SS back in March, she is now snapping her fingers expecting DH to jump on her command!