SS23 is never moving out
It's like 1 step forward 10 steps back.
He learned how to cook pork chops. Great! Now he can cook 2 things!
Then I sent him to get his oil changed and he calls to tell me he spent $190! He said yes to everything the offered. EVERYTHING. AND he was PROUD of himself. SMDH.
He has no clue about the world. He is so gullible. He makes so many stupid mistakes and I know they aren't his fault. He is still mentally a 15 yr old. I have to remember that.
Yes, he completed welding training. 3 years for an 18 month program. Yes he got a job at the shipyard- but it's through a government program for people with disabilities. He has been there for 5 months now and is still in intro training because he isn't getting through the welding classes there. He really can't be fired, they will just keep moving him around departments until he winds up a janitor or something because he is pretty protected in this program. But he is just not going to make it in the real world.
His attitude with me is so bad that I just want to scream. He is struggling with "being an adult" but still living with mom and dad and having rules and expectations. It just sucks. There is no other way to describe it. DH was home for about 18 hrs yesterday. He did his best to try and explain the steps SS has to do again and backed me up. SS got shitty and told DH he was just going to move out.
DH had to bark at him and remind him that he doesn't have anything. How is he going to cook? What is he going to eat on? What is he going to sit on? What will he watch? Where will he sleep? Has he gotten a new cell phone plan? His car titled in his name? His own auto insurance? How about a meal plan for the week? Grocery budget?
All the things most people, go well, duh- I need to get those things handled and know what to do. Not my SS. He thinks he can just go "sign up" for an apartment and that's it! He didn't know he would have to pay an electric bill. He didn't think about internet. Like nothing. Just sign up for an apartment and Boom!
He didn't even know it was an application and he had to get approved. My brain just hurts having to function for him and trying to teach him. He just doesn't pick up what we are saying and when I have to hold his hand to do something all I can think is- what's going to happen when I'm not here. He CAN'T do this stuff. He is never going to move out.
I knew that when DH and I got married but he really has come so far. I thought for a minute there was hope. But there's not. There just isn't.