Quick backstory for any newbies: My SS18 has been severely alienated, my DH has not been able to speak to him in 2 years. We are long distance (BM moved away and established residency while he was deployed). Their first divorce was illegal and had to be thrown out. It has been one disaster in court after another for the last 8 years. Last year, while my DD was fighting for her life in a hospital, BM filed for back CS going to when she deserted the marriage.

Obviously after yesterday's events I am all up in my head. 

Have any of you experienced BM dodging subpoenas? Did they get away with it?

What about someone denying service? Is this really a thing that is allowed? 

I do HR and bookkeeping for a living. I have been summoned to court in the past for an employee. The cop showed up with the subpoena, handed it to me. Recorded it in his paperwork and left. I didn't "accept" it. It was ordered to be given to me. I just don't understand. 

With court days away now, of course some of DH's and my converstations drift to talking about SS18. DH just broke my heart last night though. He said that for him, the only way he can process everything is that his child died 2 years ago. He no longer has his younger son. He is dead.

My heart just shattered but I know what he is saying. It's an unspeakable loss but even more twisted because his son isn't dead, but by DH being dead to his son- he has to react the same. 

Many of you remember some of the struggles my DD15 went through. Thanksgiving 2021 she was in a crash that almost killed her. She was in ICU for 16 days. It took 5 surgeries just to close her chest wound. Her arm was snapped like a match stick and she has only regained partial function of one of her kidneys. She also lost a breast. -- So she has been through hell.