I am really struggling with my ex. Since I did not agree to reduce child support there is now a new game they are playing where they are promising things to my daughter to go live with them. 

I'm sorry, but I have issues with that. I have been the one raising my kids for their entire lives. When we were married he was home maybe one week a month. He has been a long distance parent ever since. She has her whole life here. Friends, my whole family, schools, sports, medical specialists (3 different Dr's for her migraines). 

I know I don't post about her much, she is mostly non-existent. 

Last night I was talking to SS21 about who had called him with Happy Birthday's- Of course my family called and sung happy bday (we all do it) which he thought was weird and off key LMAO. He talked to MIL and got texts from SIL's. 

(Sorry this is longer than I thought it was going to be and really just a vent- nothing can really be done right now.)

SS20 (21 in 5 days) has been HORRIBLE to live with the last few weeks. 

I was tossing some of it up to SS16 coming to town, season changes, my kids schedules have been crazy with their dad closer and online school they are doing a lot of back and forth. But wow did things come to a head last night!

We have given SS 3 "chores" that he is responsible for.

Grounding was effective- at least it made some impact. 

He has actually had a lot of really good talks with DH and my BS. My BS called him out one night when they were hanging out- just the 2 of them. He asked why he kept being a d*ck to his dad. I guess that opened his eyes a little. SS suggested that DH call him on Sunday mornings around 10am instead of the Tuesday night call that was in the CO. He also said that he will start responding to texts messages and APOLOGIZED.