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Kind of SM related- Disability and benefits

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Thank you for those who commented on my last post about SS20 being disabled, but not enough for the help we really need.

I do think that I am going to suggest that we get a lawyer for SS. His therapist, DARS counselor and Dr. all agree she should be on disability, it is just getting through the red tape and something that I don't have the time or patience to deal with right now. 

Disabled, but not enough

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The last couple of days have been pretty frustrating. I have made calls to SSstb21's therapist and DARS counselor. Both of them say that we are in the land of no help. While SS is disabled and not able to live on his own (neither think that he is even close to being ready to live on his own with a roommate), he isn't disabled enough for any services that would help with a group home. 

Losing my mind with SS20

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Quick Backstory: SS20 has Autism, ADHD and Anxiety disorder. He is considered high functioning but not enough to live on his own. BM has never been in the picture other than to pop up 1-2 a year with some random texts. BM has 7 other kids (all younger) custody of none. In and out of jail, drug and alcohol problems. 

BM is getting away with it... I just know it.

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I called the city attorney today and this is how it went:

She said that she is still waiting on more information before she decides if she will charge BM. I asked if there was anything that we could do or push for- She said no. I asked if she would like to speak with DH and our attorney for clarification on the history and she said no, it has no bearing on this case.

 

Then she said:

“You guys have a lot going on independent of this. I wouldn’t concern yourself with what is happening here. Have a good day. Good bye.”

 

8 years ago today

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8 years ago today I was thrown up against the wall, held by my throat and told that he would make sure I never saw my kids again. This happened in front of my daughter (5 yrs old) who was standing on the stairs right behind the monster I married. 

8 years ago today I took out a restraining order and had the police escort him and his kid out of our house. I pawned my wedding ring and hired movers to come the following day. I found an apartment paid my deposit and was gone all within 24hrs with my 2 bio kids in tow.

Letter to school sent

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Our attorney wrote us back and said to leave the letter "as is" and send it. He said he is curious to see what happens and how they respond. If we don't get anything back from them within a week, he will follow up with the school to make sure that DH's concerns were addressed. 

We sent it yesterday via email and sent the original in the mail. We haven't heard a peep- so I am anxiously waiting to see what will happen now. 

 

 

CS and Covid

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I am still dealing with my ex and his wife wanting to reduce CS. (He is military and is retiring after his 20 yrs- this does give a retirement check but not enough to solely live off of for most people at the ripe age of 41). He is going to be a stay at home dad to their children. 

Apparently they consulted with an attorney in CA (where they currently live) who said that due to covid people are being allowed to stop CS until schools open up and they can find child care where they live. They are moving to Maryland in March. 

Forgery Update #2

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I talked to the city attorney today. DH gave my phone number to her because he can't receive calls during normal business hours on the ship. 

They are moving forward with pressing charges against her, right now they are working to determine what the extent of the charges will be but she assured me that the city is not letting this go. 

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