Curfew- debate with DH
DH was irritated with my dad last night bringing my son (who turns 16 this week) home late.
I told DH that I was irritated too, and would have picked him up myself but when I called they were on the way. They just decided to go cruising around and get ice cream and hang out- without asking me. So what we were expecting an on the way of less than 5 minutes turned into 2 hours. However- he is 16, about to have his license and will be out until curfew starting this week. It was my fault for not being clear on when to be home with BS and my dad.
I said that there are going to be plenty of nights when he won't be until midnight anyway. DH got PISSED. "Not under my roof" -- blah, blah, blah. That of course set me off, but that's for another day.
He believes that 10 pm should be the latest curfew for BS, with exceptions for everything under the sun- movie times, work, plans, etc.
I said what's the point of a curfew if you have constant exceptions? 10pm on weeknights and midnight on the weekends. We have cameras to check his arrival time and he should text to let us know he is home. We can verify with the cameras. DH thinks that is way too late and he has no business being out late like that.
I was- my parents were strict compared to my friends and that was my curfew. That was before cell phones too. They just trusted me. I trust my son. He hasn't ever given me reason to not trust him. As long as he is working, still making straight A's in all very advanced classes and hasn't given me a reason not to trust him- why wouldn't I? In 2 years he will be on his own, at some point we have to loosen the grip and give him room to learn and make small mistakes.
What time do you feel is a normal curfew for genuinely good teenagers? I am curious what others think!