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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sat, 07/06/2019 - 11:21am

DH has been off work for a week now to take care of our one year old son because we just had a new baby and I'm recovering from that and more restricted physically due to having a c section. My ODS8 and SD8 are currently both staying at their grandparents.

Hes exhausted from just taking care of one kid for a week. Hes a pretty easy going one year old but just the same he is a lot of work since he is little.

Poll: would this concern you as either a step or bio parent

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 07/01/2019 - 11:23am

So the last time SD8 was here I ran outside to throw something in the recycling. So gone less than 30 seconds. I come back in and DS1 is sitting at the bottom of the stairs crying and SD is standing at the top with the baby gate open. Completely flat facial expression, doesnt even glance at her little brother, doesn't look worried she will be in trouble, just no reaction at all. I yell at her about the gate being opened while picking up DS and comforting him and she just said I didnt and calmly walked away.

New baby and of course theres drama

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 07/01/2019 - 9:19am

So I had a new baby Friday. BM was going to keep SD until this weekend. Well she drops her off this morning anyway pretending she was confused about the plan. 

So basically either we look like the bad guys sending her away or I have to help take care of another kid that I wasn't expecting to have this week instead of focusing on my newborn. I'm sure you can all guess what DHs reaction was.

High conflict people acting "nice"

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Tue, 06/25/2019 - 9:47am

How do you usually feel/respond when someone who is difficult/high conflict/narcissistic etc is being nice? For example MIL is a very difficult person to be around and I really just want to remain low contact with her (see previous blogs for examples) but then she will go out of her way to do something helpful/nice. I dont think this really makes up for the bad things and want to remain low contact still. DH gets hopeful that everyone is going to get along now. Just curious how others would react/respond.

Always a good time with the inlaws - not

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Fri, 06/21/2019 - 7:59pm

So SD has a birthday 10 days after I have a c section scheduled (fourth of July week). MIL has a tradition of throwing a bday party for SD and FIL that week every year. Last year we had something different planned for SD and ODS and all hell broke loose that we weren't doing MILs usual plan. I knew MIL was going to be angry that my due date is too close to SDs bday and she already made one comment about it. 

First wife is always in the right

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 06/03/2019 - 11:04am

So at a parent group/baby class I was at today at one point the lady leading the parent group discussion brought up how COD need to be told that their parents loved eachother when they were conceived/born even if they didnt really. After that she went on to talk about her own grandson and how his parents are friends still but her sons new wife "doesnt really like them being friendly." Obviously indicating that the new wife is of course just jealous and in the wrong. Of course it's the new wife's fault and the ex could never be in the wrong or crossing boundaries right? So annoying. 

Well she's only here half the time

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sun, 05/26/2019 - 10:22am

Yep DH flat out said it. SDs behavior is okay because shes only here half the time. 

Hes mad because my son is acting toward him exactly how SD always acts and I decided this time to handle it like he does. Of course he was completely furious about that. His response to me pointing out I put up with that crap constantly and that I called this happening (DS copying the behavior) and I guess that's not as big of a deal because "well you only deal with it half the time." 

 

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