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SD was here an hour and a half

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sat, 09/18/2021 - 10:35am

SD showed up. Ran down to her room immediately. DH went down to talk to her for a bit. Then he told her he needed her iPad, because aren't going to allow her to use electronics unsupervised in our home. SD ran into the bathroom with it, locked the door and called her mom. Her mom shows up right as we go downstairs. Her mom tells her to go outside and she starts screaming and bawling that she can't because we're at the door. So I tell her that her mom is outside so she can go out to her car.

I'm losing patience with DHs guilt.

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Wed, 09/15/2021 - 8:37pm

DH is still getting mopey with his guilt regarding SD sometimes. That he could have done more when she was younger, blah blah. Idk what more he could have done honestly and I think the guilt is disproportionate to his actions. I'm losing patience in dealing with it. Regardless of what happened 8, 9 10 years ago we are where we are and SD is a mini of BM. I know that sounds cold and it kind of is but...I really am just wishing he could get over it.

Apparently everything is fine now?

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Wed, 09/15/2021 - 6:31pm

So I've written plenty over the last 9 months of BM and SD complaining about how we/our home isn't good enough and so forth. Last month SD didn't come over at all. I messaged BM to check if SD was still coming this weekend and if so what time and wow what a 180. Perfectly friendly and agreeable, SD can be there any time, etc.

Uhhh....okay. 

ETA: it could be because she thinks we're going to the inlaws. ...

Using kids to perpetuate abusive behavior

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 09/13/2021 - 10:40am

Most of my relationship with DH I've questioned if BM was alienating SD or if SDs reaction to DH and myself was just a natural response to the situation. Over the past year it's become glaringly obvious that yes, it was alienation and it sounds like it started before DH even left BM (only BM knew the correct way to handle SD and criticized anything DH did, SD only ever wanted BM, etc). 

When tiktok parents for you

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Thu, 09/09/2021 - 11:19am

I've posted about SDs tiktok posts a few times and how insanely inappropriate they are. And that BM follows her on it and doesn't care apparently what she posts. 

Well, now SDs account is banned for multiple community guidelines violations. I'm sure she will just make another account. But it's kind of interesting that the platform itself cares more about what a 10 year old posts then her mom.

No SD this month

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Thu, 08/19/2021 - 2:04pm

BM just messaged and said SD doesn't want to visit this month. Aw shucks. Just gonna guess that she doesn't want to come at all and just is gonna keep putting it off. 

Also on the SD front, she's had many more charming tiktok posts lately. Lots of f words and discussing her sexuality (which is apparently bisexual). Why a 10 year old is up at 2 am publicly posting these things I'll never understand, but not my problem. 

My prediction at this point is within the next 5 years she'll be begging to quit school and probably doing drugs.

Getting on the same page as BM

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Thu, 08/19/2021 - 9:10am

So its been a couple weeks already since MIL told DH he needs to "get on the same page" as BM and attempted to facilitate a discussion between them (unasked for). But I'm just posting my thoughts on it now. 

I dont think its possible for that to happen. For one thing, one of the parties goal is to fight and be superior. Even beyond that, there's completely different parenting styles and lifestyles. It's really annoying when people don't understand why DH is doing parallel parenting and try to force their ideals on him (us, really).

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