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Well, SD did show up - briefly.

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BM did drop off SD this morning, surprisingly. However, she's only here until noon. This info was given to us by SD, BM still has not said a word. We talked to SD and decided that the next weekend she's going to be here we'll just go out to eat with her. 

She had no actual reason to give us as to why she doesn't want to be here. 

Silence still

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Well, it's the day before SD is supposed to be here. Normally BM would send a "just confirming I'll be dropping her off" message when there's been any changes. So since she hasn't been here in nearly 3 months and there's been no message I'm guessing that she's just not gonna show up. And wants DH to beg and grovel to get to see (not so) little Bratleigh BM Jr. I'm sure there's some long speech she has prepared to tell him (us) off when we reach out also thats she's just dying for.

I guess we'll see in the morning.

Silence still from BM and SD

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We still have heard absolutely nothing from BM regarding the drama last time SD was here and them rushing to pick up SD because SIL was insulted and told BM who knows what. SD is supposed to be here this weekend. Not sure if we should wait for her to reach out or if we should reach out and offer to meet up with SD somewhere if she doesn't want to do overnights. I really have no idea what BM is thinking - if she wants SD gone for the weekend and is done pulling crap when she's here or if she's going to try to tell us SD doesn't want to come.

Kind of interesting

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BMs half brother (she didn't really have a relationship with him) died recently. From the obituary, along with some background info I already knew, I gathered this:

GBM got married, had a few kids, got divorced and left kids with dad. Got remarried and had another kid, divorced again and left that kid with dad. Remarried a third time (to BMs dad), had 2 more kids. Got divorced again, left the kids with dad and moved in with the man she's still with today. 

DH needs to pick a side

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Probably not gonna leave this up for long, as I'd rather say this to DH than have him read it on here. But I want to get my thoughts fully worked out and some feedback.

DH needs to pick a team and fully commit. No more of this wishy washy back and forth. Either he's going to be fully committed to the family we made, or I'm going to have to have my "team" be just me and my kids. I can't handle the anxiety of not knowing if he's going to have the backbone or not to put our family first.

DH is still an idiot

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DH hasn't seen SD in over 2 months. This was her choice (and partially because she went to visit her grandma), and last time she was here she wanted to leave right away.  DH now feels guilty and wants to take her out for her birthday. I can understand feeling guilty to an extent. But Logically, what sense does it make that your response to a kid who CHOSE not to see you, and lied about us not getting her any Christmas presents, is to make up for your guilt by bringing her to a fun place and buying gifts?

BMs instability

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I hate how BMs instability ends up affecting my life. Whenever she starts dating someone new/breaks up with them she completely changes. In the time I've known DH (6 years) she's been in 4 different relationships and went from planning on ditching SD altogether to move, to demanding exactly 50/50 (not a day more), to now wanting her all but one weekend a month. And of course whenever her situation changes, big or small, thr expectation is that we will just adjust to whatever she needs.

The bitter SM laughs

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I guess BM has been whining that she picked the wrong baby daddy. Usually she's been fairly silent on that subject. At least publicly, I'm sure to whoever she's dating there's tons of sob stories.

The bitter SM in me responded to that info with glee. It makes me happy to know that she hates/regrets having to deal with the situation as much as I/we do. Also, does it reallllly count as picking your baby daddy if you weren't sure which guy out of 3 it was?

Fil AND Mil visit

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DH had invited FIL to YDS2 birthday. Normally it would be the weekend that  MIL would work, so we figured we wouldn't have to deal with inviting her or not inviting her. Turns out she switched weekends with someone for the 4th of July, so she ended up being at the party as well. I wasn't thrilled about this. However, something shocking happened. Besides being very subdued the whole party, when they were leaving FIL told us thanks for the invite, and MIL said yes, thank you, that was very nice. No sarcasm, completely genuine. I've never heard a genuine thank you in any form from MIL. 

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