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No SD this month

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BM just messaged and said SD doesn't want to visit this month. Aw shucks. Just gonna guess that she doesn't want to come at all and just is gonna keep putting it off. 

Also on the SD front, she's had many more charming tiktok posts lately. Lots of f words and discussing her sexuality (which is apparently bisexual). Why a 10 year old is up at 2 am publicly posting these things I'll never understand, but not my problem. 

My prediction at this point is within the next 5 years she'll be begging to quit school and probably doing drugs.

Getting on the same page as BM

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So its been a couple weeks already since MIL told DH he needs to "get on the same page" as BM and attempted to facilitate a discussion between them (unasked for). But I'm just posting my thoughts on it now. 

I dont think its possible for that to happen. For one thing, one of the parties goal is to fight and be superior. Even beyond that, there's completely different parenting styles and lifestyles. It's really annoying when people don't understand why DH is doing parallel parenting and try to force their ideals on him (us, really).

I never want to see that evil little brat again

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Exactly what I predicted years ago would happen has happened. SD made up a bunch of lies, MIL and SIL bought into it and it's obvious they all want to ruin DH and my marriage so they can go back to controlling him.

After DH confronted his parents with the crap on SDs tablet, MIL sent DH a message this morning that BM had sent to SIL. BM said that this was not SILs fault (of course) and detailed the reasons why SD does not want to come to our house:

Hmm...another piece of the MIL puzzle

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DH and MIL got into it last night after he sent messages to FIL (see previous blog). Lots of gaslighting, playing the victim, etc, per usual. And- get this- THEY'RE now the ones being alienated from the kids by us because we don't visit as often as they want and we've told them we're busy when they wanted to stop by (which happened twice). 

Omfg the drama - how to even untangle this mess pt 2

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So DH messaged FIL screenshots of a couple of the messages I mentioned in my last blog. Namely, one of SIL trashing me to SD and saying I'm a bully, and then the one of SD swearing at BM because she wanted candy. And the message where SD said she needed to go tell MIL the news after she finished gossiping with SIL about me. DH also included that I had done nothing wrong to SD and that we don't tolerate that kind of behavior from SD so she doesn't want to come here.

Omfg the drama - how to even untangle this mess

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So. SIL went all out bashing me to SD after the fiasco last time she was here. SD was fully on board with that and apologized to SIL for me being "so disrespectful" to SIL and told her that she thinks DH and I aren't a good couple because sometimes we argue.(this is all over messenger kids) SIL told SD that it's okay to love her dad but it's not okay for (me) to bully her and make her feel uncomfortable in her own home. She also told SD that she spoke to her dad (DH) but that she couldn't even have a convo with him because I was in the background yelling the whole time.

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