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I never want to see that evil little brat again

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 8:12am

Exactly what I predicted years ago would happen has happened. SD made up a bunch of lies, MIL and SIL bought into it and it's obvious they all want to ruin DH and my marriage so they can go back to controlling him.

After DH confronted his parents with the crap on SDs tablet, MIL sent DH a message this morning that BM had sent to SIL. BM said that this was not SILs fault (of course) and detailed the reasons why SD does not want to come to our house:

There's bugs in the house (yes, we have a door to the basement from the garage and there was a beetle in the basement once. At the time SD was laughing about it.)

The basement is always cold. (We have never heard this complaint from her and obviously has an easy solution)

Jcksjj accused SD of lying 3 times times she wasn't and it made her cry (if I actually accused her of lying there was proof). And there's been many other inappropriate comments made by jcksjj.

She doesn't have very much stuff there. She enjoys doing creative pursuits. (This is a BLATANT lie. Her room was absolutely full of crap she never touched, including art supplies).

They don't keep SDs room very clean. There's diapers left in there and the kids go on my bed. 

I never want to see that God awful little brat again.

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 8:29am

This is just so much enmeshment between ILs, SD, and BM. Honestly, be thankful you aren't mixed in with this level of dysfunction. 

I would tell DH that you will not be around SD due to her continued accusations. You have been nothing but kind and supportive, providing a nice home and stuff for this child, who clearly could care less. Your DH can exercise his visitation away from the home on the off chance that SD actually wants to visit. You can't be accused of wrongdoing if you aren't around. You'll just be accused of not caring or ignoring SD, which in my opinion, you have every right to do. 

Does your DH just want to drop rope? Because BM is up IL's butts, your DH is facing the family abuse all over again, but this time also from BM and SD. It would be easier to just cut ties with SD, BM, and ILs to save both of your sanity. It is clear that SD has chosen and its not you guys. 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 10:26am

I agree. I think he does know that on some level, but the societal backlash from a man cutting ties with his kid is a lot to face, especially on top of his own guilt.

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 10:54am

And that is something he is going to have to work through, but screw society, they don't know what he has been through and he has put up the good fight. He didn't walk away early on. He has been used and abused by all of this for years. Anyone who wants to shame or criticize him can pack sand. 

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 8:49am

All the fake accusations from Chef's ferals in cahoots with the Girhippo and her enmeshed BM, the original alienator, Battleaxe Galactica!!!

(((Shudder)))

Chef tried to straddle the fence for quite a while but they were intent on forcing Chef to "choose" between me or the holy first failed family.

Bad

I feel your pain. 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 10:27am

Well I'm glad he made the right choice. It disgusts me how they act like "the kids" (my boys) are annoying flies in princess SDs way.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 11:38am

It took a looooooooonnnnnnnnng time for Chef to figure out the emotional blackmail.  He would mope around the house and be moody when they didn't come then be on pins and needles when they did come.

Then he started blaming me for everything.  Lots of pining, anger (displaced toward me) and mourning.   It wasn't till about 3 years ago that he came to closure.  He finally realized that his ex-wife and ferals were POS.  He even started to criticize his sainted MIL.  Boy did she have him fooled but I could see right through her.  The attitude was how dare you get a divorce from my princess and yet she wanted to divorce first.

Of course we don't have an "ours"  kid to make the decision easier.  Basically all of chefs family abandoned him and took the Gir's side including his one and only full-blooded brother.  He hasn't spoken to him for 17 years because the brother has shunned Chef for daring to walk away from the (not so) marvelous Girhippo.  

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 12:07pm

That's unbelievably awful. I can imagine it is easier for my DH to make that decision when he has other kids. DH also has one sister that's removed herself from the family drama to set an example for him.

 

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Submitted by AgedOut on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 9:06am

At this point all you can do is ask that she not darken your doorstep again. Dad can take her for a meal, a movie, an afternoon but you will not participate in any way again. By lying she has poisoned any future visits to your home. 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 10:28am

I dont think the demon deserves movies or fun with dad, but I guess if he still is going to have contact with her he can do it that way.

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Submitted by halo1998 on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 9:32am

he was a king of making sh*t up.  Beaver bought into every single one of his tall tales.....poor widdle SS was unfairly persecuted.

MMMhmm.....***rolling my eyes*****

I just refused to deal with him for a long while.  He got to deal with DH....and then he just noped right on out of our lives when DH wasn't about to feed his  poor widddle old me attitude.