I’m having my son this Friday. That’s less than 2 days away. My BFs aunt agreed at least a month ago to watch both of the girls this weekend while I’m in the hospital so my BF could also be there for me and our son. Well today she decided to tell us that she won’t be keeping the girls all weekend because she can’t handle our DD1 for more than one night and she will also be going fishing on Sunday with my BFs mom. Wow ok then. Not only are you telling me this 2 days before I’m about to have this baby but you’re also trying to shame me for wanting my SO there the whole time.
Both of the girls decided today would be a good day to have completely over the top meltdowns. SD4 spilled an entire bowl of cereal all over her room but instead of just cleaning it up decided to get an attitude and yell and argue with me. It took her an entire hour to clean it because I refused to help after the way she wanted to talk to me. After she finished she still had an attitude while at the same time my DD1 was screaming her little head off because she was tired and didn’t want to sleep.
My little boy will be here this Friday and I can’t be more excited. I’m so looking forward to the few days in the hospital with just me, my SO and our son! I just have to get through these next few days with SD with out loosing my mind. My hormones are raging and it doesn’t help that she went away to her grandmas house where she gets spoiled to no end. Already this morning she’s gotten an attitude and has decided she’s allowed to talk to me in anyway she wants. Of course I’m nipping it in the butt as it happens I just don’t know if I’m going to have the patience to deal with all day long.
she’s sick and extra whiny and of course I expect it because all kids get like this when they’re sick. She expects me to come to her beck and call like her dad does and I’m just not ok with it. I can’t stand being around her when she’s like this. Expects everyone to drop everything to do something for, won’t ask for anything, wants everything handed to her on a silver platter, talks to you however she wants. I’m not allowed to get on to her for it either because she’s sick and not feeling good so my boyfriend becomes even more of a doormat for her.
My SO decided to stay home to take SD4 to the dentist this morning. I’d made the appointment and told him when it was multiple times. It being in the morning I was skeptical about him actually making it on time. Well the doctor is about 20 minutes away and he just now left to go but only after getting mad at me for telling him if he wanted to change the appointment time he could call the doctor himself. He is a 29 year old man after all. Now he’s pissed because he didn’t want to do it and now I’m not being helpful.
I tried to yet again y’all to SO about giving in to SD4s crying and fit throwing. Again I was met with defensiveness and just straight up ignoring me. I don’t know how else to get the point across clearly so that he actually listens and sees what he’s doing. It’s almost feels like he thinks air or anyone else has the right to say anything about his daughters behavior especially if it’s negative. He doesn’t listen to me, his aunt or his mom.
It’s something I’ve vented about before, but I still find myself questioning and needing clarity on the subject. My SD turns 5 in a couple weeks, and I’m not sure if it is her age but she still begs my SO to sleep with her every night or tries to convince him to let her sleep in our bed. On top of her already coming into our room on weekends to come lay with him in the mornings.
I just am at a loss right now. It wasn’t even a huge deal until the way he responded to me. I’m a SAHM with 2 children SD4 and DD1 on top of being about to pop with our son. I spent this past weekend out of town to see my sister with out the kids for the first time in months. My SO has decided that since I got one weekend to myself he now can rub it in my face and use it to justify not being home after work except for maybe and hour or two. Not only do I not get to really see him our girls don’t get to spend anytime with him at all.
I spent the weekend away while my SO stayed home with our daughters DD1 and SD4. Everything seemed to have gone smoothly both girls were happy when I got home, but one thing he did that really gets under my skin is allow our 4 year old to start playing with my 1 year olds toys. I know it seems like it’s not a huge deal but my SD basically is entitled to EVERYTHING in the house because he won’t set boundaries. My DDs toys were the only thing my daughter had that was actually hers.
My SO has been home not even 2 hours and guess who’s already fed up with needy little SD. That’s right him. Of course he won’t admit that he is he’ll just send her to her room or snap at her. It’s fun to watch because the same reasons he gets mad at me for being impatient over an entire day he can only handle at most a couple hours. He’ll criticize me and tell me I need to spend more time with her when he can’t even stand spending time with her for any period of time. It’s all because of him too.