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Submitted by JBDmom on Mon, 07/08/2019 - 8:34pm

I tried to yet again y’all to SO about giving in to SD4s crying and fit throwing. Again I was met with defensiveness and just straight up ignoring me. I don’t know how else to get the point across clearly so that he actually listens and sees what he’s doing. It’s almost feels like he thinks air or anyone else has the right to say anything about his daughters behavior especially if it’s negative. He doesn’t listen to me, his aunt or his mom.

Am I feeling like this because she’s not mine?

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Submitted by JBDmom on Sun, 07/07/2019 - 9:32pm

It’s something I’ve vented about before, but I still find myself questioning and needing clarity on the subject. My SD turns 5 in a couple weeks, and I’m not sure if it is her age but she still begs my SO to sleep with her every night or tries to convince him to let her sleep in our bed. On top of her already coming into our room on weekends to come lay with him in the mornings.

Are all men completely self centered?

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Submitted by JBDmom on Wed, 06/26/2019 - 6:15pm

I just am at a loss right now. It wasn’t even a huge deal until the way he responded to me. I’m a SAHM with 2 children SD4 and DD1 on top of being about to pop with our son. I spent this past weekend out of town to see my sister with out the kids for the first time in months. My SO has decided that since I got one weekend to myself he now can rub it in my face and use it to justify not being home after work except for maybe and hour or two. Not only do I not get to really see him our girls don’t get to spend anytime with him at all.

“Sharing”

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Submitted by JBDmom on Mon, 06/24/2019 - 10:48am

I spent the weekend away while my SO stayed home with our daughters DD1 and SD4. Everything seemed to have gone smoothly both girls were happy when I got home, but one thing he did that really gets under my skin is allow our 4 year old to start playing with my 1 year olds toys. I know it seems like it’s not a huge deal but my SD basically is entitled to EVERYTHING in the house because he won’t set boundaries. My DDs toys were the only thing my daughter had that was actually hers.

SO dealing with his own kids

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Submitted by JBDmom on Thu, 06/20/2019 - 6:31pm

My SO has been home not even 2 hours and guess who’s already fed up with needy little SD. That’s right him. Of course he won’t admit that he is he’ll just send her to her room or snap at her. It’s fun to watch because the same reasons he gets mad at me for being impatient over an entire day he can only handle at most a couple hours. He’ll criticize me and tell me I need to spend more time with her when he can’t even stand spending time with her for any period of time. It’s all because of him too.

You guys are so judgmental

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Submitted by JBDmom on Fri, 06/14/2019 - 10:04am

It’s not even just on my posts it’s a lot of people’s. For a place that people come to vent there is a ridiculous amount of backlash for it. Just know that not everybody wants to put you down for having emotions and being a person in a tough situation! Just because you’re having a rough time and an even harder time dealing with it doesn’t mean you’re a horrible person. Vent away and don’t let the judgmental people stop you from expressing yourself.

Improvement from SO

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Submitted by JBDmom on Tue, 06/11/2019 - 12:33pm

I’ve talked about problems with my BF not stepping up as a parent and thus leading to many problems with SD4. Today though after many conversations about him believing lies from SD about me he actually followed through with everything he told me. First was trusting me to watch our SD with out questioning everything that happens. Second was believing me when I tell him something. The third thing was to stop undermining me as a parent and the last thing was to follow through with what he tells her when he gets her in trouble.

SD lying about me now

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Submitted by JBDmom on Thu, 06/06/2019 - 8:22pm

There have been plenty of white lies involving me before don’t get me wrong, but SD 4 is straight up lying about me to my BF face and I’m the one being questioned about it. I think I’ve posted before that she’s told him I don’t feed her and she did it again today telling him an entire sob story about how all I fed her was 1 muffin for the entire day. He comes into our room pissed and asked me if it was true. It was almost 5pm and he really believed I only gave our 4 year old a muffin all day long.

Disrespectful comments

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Submitted by JBDmom on Mon, 06/03/2019 - 9:14am

I’ve brought it up so many times and even say something about it as he’s saying it to me, but he always defends himself saying he’s just worried about SD being happy when she’s with me. Every time he leaves for work he’ll call me to check on I wish I could say the girls but no it’s just SD and ends the conversation with something like “please be kind to her.” or “be patient with her.” First I have never been mean to her or for the most part impatient. Do I get on to her when she acts up?

SD lying about my nephew

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Submitted by JBDmom on Sun, 06/02/2019 - 3:20pm

I don’t know why it started, but it’s been going on for over a year now. My nephew is 7 while my SD is 4. They get along fine for the most part, but they do fight occasionally as kids would especially with the age gap and the fact my nephew doesn’t baby my SD. They love playing and seeing each other they’re constantly asking when they can see each other again, but my SD will come home and tell my BF that my nephew is just mean to her all the time. She complains constantly to him about how mean he is to her. She makes up stories about how all he does is scare her and yells at her.

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