I’ve brought it up so many times and even say something about it as he’s saying it to me, but he always defends himself saying he’s just worried about SD being happy when she’s with me. Every time he leaves for work he’ll call me to check on I wish I could say the girls but no it’s just SD and ends the conversation with something like “please be kind to her.” or “be patient with her.” First I have never been mean to her or for the most part impatient. Do I get on to her when she acts up? Of course I do I’m not about to get run over by a 4 year old like my BF does just so her feelings don’t get hurt. I was raised to respect my parents and got disciplined if I didn’t and I grew up with such good and happy memories regardless of not always getting what I wanted and having to follow rules. My BF gives in to every little thing my SD says to him. She will literally cry and scream because she doesn’t want him to leave and she exaggerates how terrible of a time she has when she’s home with me. She’ll tell him I won’t feed her or play with her and that I’m mean to her when really what happened is I didn’t give her the 3rd snack she asked for before lunch, I made her clean her room, and she got in trouble for giving toys to her sister just to snatch them away. I talk to him constantly about how she has good days here but she’s just trying to manipulate him into staying with her. He’ll tell me knows but then will say these things to me every day and tell me about being worried about her all day when she’s home with me. I’m so sick of it. I can’t ask him to find a babysitter because then he gets mad and tells me my only job is to stay home with the kids. I don’t know what to do about it anymore because I don’t deserve to be treated this way just because SD wants to be coddled by daddy every second of the day and he refuses to see that I do love and take care of her better than he actually does himself.