Disengage? How to with additional kids.
I’m out of ideas besides disengaging with SD. I’m too tired and at my limit with the way she’s treats me. But what about my kids? My sons (1 is NOT husbands bio kid but he’s been in his life since before he was 1, he’s 8 now,the other is). My sons aren’t aware but SD is talking bad about them to her mom. The latest being that it bothers her that my oldest son (her stepbrother) calls my husband dad. He is his dad in every sense, except biologically, and is the only father that he has in his life. Her mom told her to speak up and tell my husband so he can tell my son to stop. I know my husband wouldn’t, but I also don’t think he’d be firm enough with SD and more just say no and brush it off. He’s constantly being threatened by her and her mom with never seeing her again so he’s always afraid to say anything to upset the spoiled brat. He’s gotten better but he’s still too easy on her. Anyway, my oldest son will notice and wonder why I’m being different with her and not doing things for her that I always have. He’ll ask me why. He adores his sister and would do anything for her, he’ll stick up for her, having no clue the way she talks about him. How do I do this without hurting my son? I can’t twll him what she says. He’d be heartbroken. She’s complained he’s always around, and that she talks to him to much when she calls. She’s also complained about the 2 year old, her only blood sibling. I’m done with her. How do I not hurt my boys in the process, they deserve so better.