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Does your SO change their views to match their children?

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I'm asking since DH has some very strong opinions on all the recent US events but is also super "flexible" when it comes to anything having to do with his own children. I know YSS is completely opposite DH in political views. And they are going on a trip together in a few weeks. I'm wondering if DH will come back on the same side as YSS. 

It's a good thing you have a stepson

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DH: [surprised about something regarding his own kid, that he didn't know, but is something he has in common with his child, and told to DH in passing by DS who assumed that DH knew, and DS walked away without realizing the impact of his statement]

Me: Good thing you have a stepson. (my DS)

DH: ??

Me: Otherwise you'd know nothing about your children.

(I know, I know. Bite your tongue. Walk away. Guess that little sarcastic voice in my head won out that time. And frankly this same scenario, minus my comments, has happened a number of times.)

More YSS and car drama

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A few separate storylines are coming together.

Back here my spidey senses were telling me a car was coming for YSS: https://www.steptalk.org/blog/itb2012/spidey-senses-and-automobiles-256011. And I was dead-right. BM and YSS went car shopping and he got a POS that's half metal and half rust. Also it's a manual transmission that neither BM nor YSS nor OSS know how to drive so not really sure how they got it back to BMs.

Let's get ready to ruuummmbbbllle!

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Quarantine has been interesting. It has proven to me that it's not me and not DS, but it's DH and his dealings with his own children that are the stressor. DH and I have been getting along. DS has been here most of quarantine and other than the amount of dishes, there's no flux in emotions or attitude from anyone. DH and DS get along well and DS has been helping DH with some side jobs. 

How conveniently they forget

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DH was surprised by a casual reference by DS19 to OSS19 and something that DHs super, special, angelic snowflakes would never, ever do. Yet DH had been told a few months ago that OSS was doing this thing, I think by OSS himself. DH conveniently forgot/ignored it and his physical reaction now made it obvious he had buried his head.

Ah, yes, and the manipulation continues

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The situation: YSS asked to come over. Then DH calls BM to see if it's okay with her (careful about relaxing the stay at home stuff). BM told DH that she and YSS got in an argument yesterday and he is mad at her. [AH, HA. THAT is why YSS wants to come over. Neither kid has offered or asked to come over in 2.5 months.]

O/T - new job!

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Besides all the regular step family and now pandemic crap, I've been dealing with a boss that knows everything. For reals. She's even corrected me when I told her about comments by another co-worker from a meeting she wasn't in and had no knowledge that it had happened (so she couldn't have found out otherwise). She also bleeds all over things if she thinks I'm the author, but leaves content alone if she thinks someone else wrote it (yes, I've done a few experiments to check if my gut was right). And I'm not the only one frustrated with her.

Mothers Day in my world

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This was a good Mother's Day. DS came back to the house. He wished me a happy day right away and he had a gift for me that he obviously did on his own. He also spent a little time with XHs girlfriend who has been in his life for a decade. She lives separately from XH but she's been another mother to DS and I'm proud of him for recognizing her, too. 

It took a long time, but a little karma is coming through

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While were were married and DS19 was little and in the almost 15 years since we got divorced, I've never said anything derogatory about XH to DS. I've never told him the reasons we got divorced (he was little when it happened and I just explained that we didn't work well as married people but we work better as separate parents and that worked for him).

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