DH had his first therapy session earlier this week. I have not asked about it since that's his personal business. He was sitting by the back door this morning as I'm getting my butt in gear for an early, important meeting. It's bitter cold here. I ask if he's waiting for his car to warm up. He tells me he's composing himself. Okay.

DH is upset with me because I didn't respond to his text messages. He was gone on a business trip and sent me five messages, each one was just a piece of information (like "the plane is almost empty"). I did read them, I didn't think they needed a response. It has been a super busy week. I was getting so ahead and behind myself that I walked away with someone else's grocery cart and didn't realize it until I was six aisles away.  Okay. I apologized. He said it again. I apologized again. I didn't get upset nor did I fall all over myself to effusively apologize.

DH is upset with me. He does not like that I have been mostly non-communicative this past week. I've been quiet because I'm still thinking. Last weekend he accused me of having a hidden agenda behind setting up DS with his own Netflix account and paying out of his bank accounts. My agenda is to help DS start building some credit. That's what I said when I wrote it on our board. My hidden agenda per DH was to boot the skids off the account once I got DS on his own. Truthfully it never crossed my mind.

Exjuliemccoy used the acronym DARVO in a post a few days ago. I had never heard of that so I looked it up and found a couple of old posts on this site. What an eye opener. This is almost every conversation with my DH, especially if it's a comment that references him or the skids, no matter how mild. Seriously. I can diagram our conversations (arguments) using that acronym. So many times I've had to defend myself, try to get us to stick to the topic, and end up with him offended/hurt and me wondering what the hell just happened.

Thank you