The revisionist does it with things this small and this petty
After a previous post about my DH revising history to make it better for himself and the skids, I'm thinking I might have to nickname him The Revisionist.
I realize the next two scenarios are small and petty. No one is upset about them. And we are not playing tit-for-tat. It's just an example of the pervasiveness of his revisionism and denial.
YSS gets up from the table and takes his dishes.
I get up from the table and take my dishes. I rinse my dishes and put them in the dishwasher.
The Revisionist gets up from the table and takes his dishes. He opens the dishwasher and sees a plate with globs of food. He pulls it out to rinse it.
[Back story: The Revisionist has a history of being annoyed if dishes went un-rinsed when all three boys were around and usually pinned it on DS ---not always unfairly as DS also did not do it consistently.]
Me (blandly): Looks like YSS isn't rinsing his dishes again. [Assuming incorrectly that The Revisionist is still unhappy about unrinsed dishes.]
The Revisionist: I don't know whose it is, I just want to make sure the dishes are rinsed.
Me: Really? You heard me running water and you know I'm a neat freak, the boys all have a history of not rinsing, but you are unsure who put an unrinsed plate in the dishwasher? [And when it's just me and The Revisionist dishes are rinsed.]
The Revisionist: Well, I didn't see you.
Me: [giving up and walking away, but wondering if karma has time for something this silly]
Later that night The Revisionist said YSS had already had dessert, but he's gonna have some and did I want some, too? Sure. The Revisionist eats his dessert at the counter near the dishwasher. We chat while eating. I finish first and he watches as I rinse my dish. I open the dishwasher and put my bowl in, then I pull out a bowl with big globs of dessert in it and without saying a word about it I set it next to him. I walk away.
Amazingly I hear The Revisionist go get YSS to have him rinse it properly.