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I have decided that I am going to stick this out because while things are bad, I can handle them and my bf is worth it. He is trying everything in his power to fix this situation and we are supporting each other through a hard time. I do not want to leave him and it really pisses me off that the ex is trying to break us up. I hate to say this and I really don't mean how it is going to sound, but I would almost stay right now just to spite her and show her that you can do what you want because I will not be going anywhere.
On how long it takes BM to call us to come get the SDs. They go back to BMs tomorrow for three weeks BUT.... BM informed SD12 and DH that BM needs the girls SSNs so she can "go to the food pantry bc she doesn't have enough food" ok I am in no way knocking people who use food pantrys BUT if BM can 1) afford to buy both SDs new iPads and a new flat screen 2) she can buy her booze and 3) has known she was going to have the girls she oh SHOULD HAVE PLANNED ACCORDINGLY!!! So more than likely since DH told her NO she will be calling us to drive to her house (6 hours ONE WAY) to get the girls.
Just a bit of background: I've been with FDH since SS was a few months old, he just turned 3yrs old. BM has been quite crazy towards me in the past. I won't go into details, as I'm not sure it's relevant here, I think basically all you need to know is that I put a stop to it by (nicely) saying there was no need for us to be in contact, unless there was a problem she specifically wanted to address with me concerning SS3. FDH has also put his foot down with BM boundaries since then.
My husband is sticking to his old behaviour... it has improved a bit with the baby but in general he's still the way he was before. The stepdaughters still have their demands and they don't cave in.. My husband does. With his family it's even worse than it was before. And he's being a moron about SDs.
SS9 is really into a particular toy and there is a kid event themed around that toy in our town next weekend. I have known about this for months, brought it up to FDH, bought tickets to take SS9 and BS13 but we were keeping it a surprise.
Is it wrong?
I gotta say, skid2 is my favorite. By far. He is a sweet, smart, easy to love kid. And I do love him. He is thoughtful, kind and funny, and generally no trouble.
Skid1, not so much. He's brought a lot of stress and drama into our lives, and while he does have a loveable side, it's not the same as skid2.
I do feel slightly guilty about it, though. Parents aren't supposed to have favorites. But I'm not *really* a parent, so it's ok, right?
A friend of mine is expecting. She will be a BM. She is not getting back with the father.
She was telling me today she doesn't want to be like BM or the other women we know. She wants to give the father every other weekend as soon as she and the baby can handle it and work up to 50/50 by the child's first birthday.
I gave her 3 "basic rules" for being a decent BM.
I'm still here, am going to stay until we can get through cancer and counseling. I am giving this a last go. I told him and we signed a contract - as if a marriage license isn't enough - that if he contacts her again HE IS OUT ALONG WITH HIS SPAWN. If he was open to me about getting in touch with her about ss16 once in awhile that would be one thing but he is texting her and then keeping it a secret - so not good. I am curious what the counselor is going to say.
BM has been telling some of my good friends who I attend church with that I had sexual contact with DH while they were still married. She also said that we started a serious relationship that tore apart her marriage. :jawdrop: None of this is true. Yes I knew DH while they were still married I met him in scripture study so I knew his face but we never even as much as sat next to each other. It wasn't until after he divorced her that we even began talking and even then it was just a refreshing friendship that led to talks over brunch once a week.
SO we went to a movie today, (FDH and I both took the day off to have a long weekend)
And the line up at the theater (FDH, SS10, SD8, SD12, ME)
Then FDH tried to reach over all the kids to hold my hand over their heads.
I ignored him, then SD12 said "Dad is trying to hold your hand"
I responded, "If Dad had sat next to me he could have held my hand."
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