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What's done, IS DONE!

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I gave myself time before trying to have an adult conversation with my now EX-BF. I wanted to take a step back and let him take care of his household while I take care of mine while we DATE!  We both were package deals when we met and it worked well in the beginning. If I knew the hilight of this relationship would be moving in with him, I would have waited. After a year of actual living together (pre-living dating don't count), I would have expected our to progress in some way. Nope nothing, not even listed as an emergency contact for anything.

Feeling numb

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Well I did it, I moved back out to my place. It was a hard decision to make but I could not find my happiness again. Meaning I have done all I can to get this man to hear me. I was brought into an already made family and still I felt like the help. I felt as if I were a "fill in" to him and his son. I completely shut down and all we did was argue because of it. I was only back for  4 months and things slowly went back to what things we're before.

The big move

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Hi guys! Things have been good since BM is in jail. She had been in the county going on 3 months. She was ultamately sentenced to 8m is State mandated rehabilitation. Basically a jail type of setting rehab. She hasn't gone there yet for teatment and is still trying the usual love letters/ blame game through mail. Not bothered by it.  She wrote " I wish you would just answer a phone call and work on co-parenting with me." LMAO what kind of co-parenting can a person do from behind bars????? 



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We had a very good talk about what was written to the ex-SIL. I don't have a problem with DH speaking to the ex-MIL or ex SIL I understand they are SS family and SS needs them in his life. Ex-SIL has a problem with me over a post on FB fom 2yr ago and she thought I called the probation officer on her sister. I get it she is being big sister but I'm not one to F with. "I ain't a killa but don't push me" lol I take the higher road and stay out of it all and sit back and laugh. I'm sure if SIL knew the truth she would see things differently but I don't need validation from her.

This man done lost his cotton picken mind!

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26 is the number of times Meth mom called yesterday from the county JAIL. All were collect and all were not answered. Come on 26.........yes I know he has nothing else to do while there. Where were the 26 FREE calls to her son when she was out of jail. She knew she was going to get caught why not use your free time wisely. I guess she was getting high on meth....... 

So lastnight I noticed all the calls from her and I seen calls from her mom to my BF. Then I decided to see if there were text. Well there was.......... 

Wonder if she figured it out?

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Well once Methmom went to jail and has been calling @6xs a day. Her letters have flooded in to her son. Not much content there oh did I mention SS5 can't read sentences yet!!!!! I don't want him to learn how to read by reading his mommy's snail mail from JAIL!!!!! SS still don't know where she is, we don't think it's appropriate to tell him.  

My Patience is running thin!

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So the snail mail from jail is flooding in. Love letter after love letter from jail from the ex wife. I know the meth monster is in JAIL and she needs a fantasy in her head to help pass the time.... Well it's pissing me off. Who like to see love letters being sent to their SO? Not the girl!!!!! I'm trying my best to not to take it out on him, I really am! I think I have made great progress.  It's just frustrating. I know this meth head is just trying to get under my skin and don't give it the satisfaction of knowing that. 

Appropriate communication

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Yesterday was SO bithday and he kept getting calls from the county jail. I thought it was probably because she wanted to reach out to wish him a happy birthday but probably not. He is the first one she runs too whenever she is in trouble. That is ok because he has never come to her aid. 

No boom boom No communication

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I hope it's ok to discuss this topic. We have had a huge snag in the bedroom. It not all the time but it happened before and I thought being honest and communicating that i was not being satisfied. My needs aren't beeing met. Before someone says," well maybe its because HIS needs aren't being met!" Um NO, I watch his needs be met Everytime with or without my help. 

My question is, how do I approach the issue to him?