We had a very good talk about what was written to the ex-SIL. I don't have a problem with DH speaking to the ex-MIL or ex SIL I understand they are SS family and SS needs them in his life. Ex-SIL has a problem with me over a post on FB fom 2yr ago and she thought I called the probation officer on her sister. I get it she is being big sister but I'm not one to F with. "I ain't a killa but don't push me" lol I take the higher road and stay out of it all and sit back and laugh. I'm sure if SIL knew the truth she would see things differently but I don't need validation from her. My thing is Ex-SIL will take DH word "I will put money on the phone card as soon as I can" and tell meth mom. She will take it as a sign that DH still loves her and continue to live in her fairytale head.
He understands why I got upset and he knows it's important to me be included in thoes typ of decisions. It's always been that way. I hope he continues to communicate with me on this.