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Being held hostage

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Submitted by New_to_this on Thu, 05/02/2019 - 9:19am

That’s how DH described our situation. We are being held hostage by SS15, an emotionally manipulative, mentally troubled teen.

This is the fault of DH and his ex. SS has been emotionally manipulative since I met him when he was 8 years old. A part of it is genetic and an early learned behavior by SS, but DH and his ex could have parented him differently. They could’ve given real consequences for his actions. They could’ve been honest with him about how his behavior affects himself and everyone around him.

DH supporting SS's delusions

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Submitted by New_to_this on Thu, 12/13/2018 - 9:57pm

Ok, so maybe calling SS delusional is strong, but this kid seriously has no self-awareness. So, in more attempts to waste our time and money, he told DH that he wanted to become a lifeguard and work at a local pool this summer. He said he found a job listing on a website for 15 year olds and he will be turning 15 soon. He told DH this earlier this week and DH was totally supportive of this.

Holiday cards. Am I wrong?

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Submitted by New_to_this on Wed, 12/12/2018 - 12:00am

I'm not one that sends out cards for the holidays. It's not something that I grew up with, so it feels a little weird to me, even though DH and I get plenty of cards from others, especially the cards with a photo of the kids, the family, or the dog. This year was the first year that I bought professional pictures from DS3's class pictures. He's never had professional pictures taken before, which is another thing I'm not so happy about, but that'll be for another rant.

DH and his memory

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Submitted by New_to_this on Sun, 12/09/2018 - 8:39am

Obviously SS is going to do sh*tty things everytime he's here, so this is just a recap of the most annoying thing this weekend thus far. DH, DS, and I went out in the morning for less than two hours. Within that time, SS woke up, ate breakfast and lunch, made a mess, and went into the pantry (he's not allowed in there) and took either two or three of DS's juice boxes.

Why does it just keep getting worse

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Submitted by New_to_this on Sat, 11/17/2018 - 8:57pm

Three months full-time.

Yep. I just found out that SS14 will be with us for three months. And, this will start either days before or after I give birth. We currently have him every other week and I'm totally sick of him by mid-week. I'm already on the brink of losing my mind with DH due to my hormones and DH spending all his time and money on SS.

Skids will get a "real" Christmas, like every year

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Submitted by New_to_this on Mon, 11/12/2018 - 1:28pm

I'm rolling my eyes. But, at least I don't have to spend Christmas with SS14 for once!

We take the skids every single year for the Christmas week even though the custody agreement says they are supposed to alternate yearly. So for 8 years, we've gone to DH's parent's house for the week with the skids.

Let's see if this backfires on you, SS

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Submitted by New_to_this on Thu, 11/08/2018 - 11:25am

For backstory, SS has a history of emotional manipulation, depression, and buying video games with his mother's credit card without permission (in my opinion, also known as credit card fraud). So, SS's new therapist e-mailed DH a long message after SS's last appointment. I assume SS complained to her about losing his screens...a lot.

Yep. I'm an a**

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Submitted by New_to_this on Fri, 10/19/2018 - 6:28am

DH has been telling me multiple times in the past three days that SS has his sh*t together. A few days ago it was a surprised DH that said "He's taking a shower unprompted!" to which I rolled my eyes. Then he's said that he's doing his homework instead of lying about it and I've ignored DH's comments.

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