DH supporting SS's delusions
Ok, so maybe calling SS delusional is strong, but this kid seriously has no self-awareness. So, in more attempts to waste our time and money, he told DH that he wanted to become a lifeguard and work at a local pool this summer. He said he found a job listing on a website for 15 year olds and he will be turning 15 soon. He told DH this earlier this week and DH was totally supportive of this. Meanwhile, I'm listening to this and wondering to myself how SS is going to be a lifeguard when he is obese, out of shape (out of breath after walking a flight of stairs), and doesn't know how to swim (ie. doesn't know the various strokes).
Then, today DH tells me that he's taking SS to an open house for lifeguard jobs in a different part of the city. The drive can be upward of an hour and a half away in traffic, so they would be gone for upwards of 4-5 hours for this open house. So, I ask DH if he really thinks that SS can be a lifeguard. And DH says to me, well the actual job would be closer and if SS meets the minimum age requirement and if they train and hire him, it's on them. He tells me that he sees lifeguards that are unfit (I don't agree) and that maybe SS can swim and we just don't know. I, of course, was skeptical and didn't want DH to waste time and money, so I did less than 3 minutes of research to find out that the job indeed had requirements. SS would have to be able to swim 300 yards. He'd have to be able to dive 10 feet, grab a 10lb object and carry it above water for a number of yards. Plus, there were other requirements that he'd in no way meet and, no, they are not training him to meet those requirements.
It bugs me that DH does this all the time. He says yes to crazy things that SS asks for, instead of giving him a dose of reality. He continually wastes everyones time and money and DH is just stupidly, blindly supportive. And, this one! It's a lifeguard job! SS would be required to save lives! He doesn't do that - he's selfish and self-serving in every way. DH knows this. Why in the h*ll would he not nix this to begin with.
So, I remind DH that SS wanted to be in marching band and just finished up the season and he was never able to play his instrument and march at the same time...at any point. He didn't have the stamina or the ability to play the instrument. So, he never played his instrument all season! Everyone else in his section had to compensate for his inabilities. I told him that it's ok for band, but not for being responsible for saving lives.
But, the kid thinks he can do anything! He signed up for winter band, which is costing us even more hundreds of dollars for him to force his bandmates around him to cover for him. I'm baffled and annoyed, but DH just laughs it off. He knows SS has no self-awareness, but he supports all of it anyway and figures everyone else has to deal with SS's shortcomings.