SD18 moved out a couple months ago. Our home has been peaceful. My stress level has diminished. I quit feeling like a prisoner in my own home but something was still missing. Closure from the years of mental abuse that she has put me through or I should say that I allowed her to put me through. Couple days ago she came over to our home to do her laundry all while have a mental episode because her father wouldn't let her use his vehicle (long story short she has proven she is not responsible enough to drive).
Thought I would share after I saw this on Facebook. This is absolutley spot-on of how my SD18 treats her father. I am in aw at how true this is and how it describes how things are. Hope anyone who is trying to understand a narcissist reads this.
I never realized the how damaged the relationship between SD18 and I until these past few days. She went through a very traumaic experience. One that would mess anybody's head up and I wouldn't wish it on anyone to have to experience such a bad deal. She has also in the past two years had a couple traumatic losses as well.
Is it wrong to want privacy in my/our own bedroom when it comes personal things e.i., dressers, drawers, nightstand, stored things, ect.? Last night I came home from work to find my bedroom literally ransacked. Pretty much everything had been gone through even to stored items under the bed. I have lately hid my toiletries because SD17 steals my things and I don't have things I need to shower or get ready for work. I guess that is why she did it...to try and find where the things were, I'm not sure.
SD17 almost 18 moved out for a brief period to go live with her friend...unfortunately didn't last but maybe a month. When she returned to our home, she decided that the room and bathroom that she has been hers for most of her life she decided she didn't want to sleep there or use that bathroom anymore. So DH fixed up the spare room. It isn't very comfortable..kinda cold in the winter and hot in the summer. The mattress is uncomfortable, no cable TV connection, ect... The other room that she used previously was great and had its own bathroom.
I posted a little while back about an issue I was having with DH and a much younger female co-worker acting inappropriately. It came to blows..I confronted him and of course he denied anything was going on. He denies that her interest in him makes him feel good about himself which I'm pretty sure is not true. He denies that he has an affinity for much younger women but yet his baby mama and the girl he was dating before me were 17 years or more younger than him.
Today is my husband birthday. The girls at his work
had a party for him complete with cake, videos and pictures on Facebook of him embracing them and one of them throwing cake in his face.
To make a long story short, I have a chance to get 2 Nascar tickets to the race in our state in November. I've never been and would love to go. I'm thinking a chance to get away for the weekend with the hubs...we never had a honeymoon or have been away together. But of course, he tells me we need to find a way to get another ticket because SD14 will "throw a fit" if she doesn't get to go. Mind you Sd14 does not like racing or Nascar and can not stay entertained or stay still for more than 30 minutes.
Thought I'd share a WTF moment from last night.