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GBM interfering on DH's time

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SD told us a few days ago that her ear has been hurting and was saying it was the outside. I said maybe it's a pimple or that she slept on it wrong. She told me that's also what BM said. Yesterday before DH took her to camp, he asked if it was hurting too much and she said no. She had a doctor's appointment at 3pm to look at it and said she'd stay at camp until then. 

Announcing pregnancy to my dad (and SM)

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Long story short, my dad is pretty much the only one who doesn't know about baby. We wanted to wait to make sure we got through the first trimester and so far, so good! I also wanted to show him the ultrasound strip. So DH and I are taking him to lunch tomorrow. Now here is my dilemma: I have never been close to my SM and DH doesn't care for her one bit. She is very judgey and condescending and DH doesn't like to be around her for fear of saying the wrong thing to her (in response to her rude, ignorant comments) and disrespecting my dad.

SD's bday and out of state trip with BM

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As most of you know, BM agreed to give DH 50/50 which is really her dictated times since Spring Break in March. This is unofficial and DH still owes BM CS every month. Apparently BM is taking SD a state away to go to Six Flags for her bday but hasn't bothered to tell DH about it. SD is the only one who's said anything so I don't know if BM even thinks it necessary to inform DH. Well, SD will be with us for her bday week, her real bday being on a Thursday. BM decided that they're leaving that Friday after camp and DH usually has SD until at least Saturday.

OT- everyone trying to name my baby

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I am not even 12 weeks so we obviously don't know the gender and everyone we've told (we aren't sharing on Facebook) is asking what names we have and giving suggestions. DH says to ignore them because it's not their kid and their opinions don't matter but my SIL is giving me sh*tty names everyday and input on my girl names. She literally asked if I've considered Harry Potter names. Major facepalm. We have two girl names we love but haven't considered boy names yet until we know for sure- we're hopeful for a girl.

Annoyed but it's my fault

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SD is going to be 13 but has the listening skills of a 5 year old. DH went to work at 6am and assumed I'd take SD to camp since I am off and did yesterday. Fine. I told her at 6:50am that she could sleep in an extra hour since I wasn't going to take her into closer to 9. I had an errand to run and didn't want to take her, go back home, waste time, etc.

Emotionally exhausted

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As most of you know, there is nothing rewarding about being a SM. It is week on and I volunteered to take SD to camp so DH didn't have to come back home to pick her up. I thought 50/50 would be better for us but, as it turns out, it sucks. DH says SD "needs" us but after 5 years of BM as a main influence, I don't really like SD. I can't love her because I know she'll never love me. I have tried, though, only to be reminded that I'm a second class citizen.

SD is capable of doing laundry

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SD ended up staying more than a week with us and BM told us to just keep her last night. Well last night was bath night, that SD took no initiative to do without being told of course, and she was told to do her laundry if she wanted clean clothes for next week. This was at 8pm after she said BM just wanted her to stay here.

SD rewarded for slamming door in my face

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By DH, of course. He asked me to take her to therapy yesterday and, like a good wife, I agreed to help him out so he'd get home sooner. SD drew a wolf (her teacher helped trace it, SD is 12 and can't do anything on her own) and asked me if I would help her trace the wolf onto her phone cover with a sharpie we bought. I told her that she is very capable of doing it herself. When I dropped her off at therapy, the picture flew in between my seat and the center console.

Is this normal and should I be annoyed?

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My cousin who is visiting from out of state knows about the baby. SD does not. She has been hanging out with SD and asking her "what if" questions about being a big sister again (BM has a son) and SD says she knows we have been planning it. She said she'd be fine if we had a girl and she would be able to "boss her around". Wth? I am a big sister by 11 years and never once in my mind did I think I could "boss" my baby sister around...? This really annoyed me and I told my cousin that SD will ABSOLUTELY NOT boss any child of mine around.

50% great for BM

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For the past few months, SD is talking less and less about how unfair BM is and more and more about their "quality time" and jokes, etc. and it is truly bugging the crap out of me. Great for BM! Now her relationship with SD is probably better than ever and SD treats me kindly when she feels like it or wants to ask for something. DH is buying her new clothes online what seems like every week and, of course, keeping up his Disney Dad image.

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