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Non-parents really don't know..

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As many of you know, I am not a BM. That being said, I think I can manage children pretty well and I know that they can have expectations. DH has never pulled the "you're not a parent card" on me, thankfully.

SD is a picky eater. She hates trying new things. DH got home late last night and we decided to go out. We chose a Chinese buffet. It was ok. When we got there, SD was whining that she had sweet and sour chicken last week (with BM) and do they have sushi? All she eats as sushi is California rolls, by the way. I ignored her whining.

And the frustration continues

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Nobody ever tells me sh!t, yet I'm supposed to just roll with the punches. I am off today. Yes, I am sitting in the living room watching a scary movie. It is 2:30. The dishes are washed and SD is fed. SD walks in dressed and asks, "did my dad talk to you?". I say no. "I have my therapy appointment at 3," she says. Oh? 

Am I just an evil SM after all?

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Let me first say that I really am a kind, pleasant person in real life. I am not horrible to SD but I have been more direct and impatient with her lately. Well DH picked her up from BM's last night and talked to her. He said that he is really displeased with her attitude and general dislike for anything that doesn't suit her. Of course, BM just stood in silence and kept telling SD that "they love her". I'm surprised it wasn't the water works as per usual.

DH going to BM's to "talk" to SD

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That is the message he just sent me. He called BM and told her that it's bullsh!t that she is telling SD things behind his back and allowing her to be a two timing little snot. He even asked me if I wanted to go! Um, HELL NO, but thanks for the offer- NOT! I did ask that he does say the following on my behalf, however:

1) I am not an evil SM and do care for SD but her game playing and tattling must stop for not being entertained 24/7 and

Trying to enjoy my day off....

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But SD and summer break happened. I took my dogs for a less than 30 minute walk this early afternoon and SD is dressed and trying to walk toward the door when I come back in. "Can you take me to my mom's? I just want to talk to her." I say "your mom is not home so you just want to hang out with your grandma?" She says yes.

BMs officially can't mind their own damn business

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As an update to my previous blog, BM called DH about a birthday party that we went to on Sunday. This party was for a dear family friend and very prominent member in our community so we had to make an appearane. SD complained that we stayed there for 4+ hours. There were plenty of kids to interact with, henna tattoos, live music, etc. and SD12 chose to sit there and be a hermit, reading her book. Multiple friends and family members tried to interact with SD to only get the same cold shoulder that I talk about she gives me.

I think SD told BM about our arguement

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DH took SD to BM's this morning to stay with GBM and the toddler since he worked half the day and after me telling him that I didn't want SD here when he wasn't here last night. DH threw and broke my phone last night and shattered the screen in our arguement. It is totally damaged. So today when he got home, I asked to use his phone to call to make an insurance claim. There was a 4 minute call to BM 30 minutes before he got home. I checked his texts to see if anything was said, but only texts to SD.

Boundaries- Again, I'm the @sshole

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Long story short, DH and I had a massive blowout last night. I told him that SD is NOT welcome here when he is not home to laze around all day during summer break and he said he'll "take care of it". Fine by me. She can't have the decency to wish me a happy MD last week for ALL I've done for her and STILL expects me to answer her questions instead of going to dadeeeeeeee. F that! I am not a doormat and he is pretty much an absentee father. I refuse to be the 'ghost who cooks dinner'. F that noise.

SD wants a dog

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More specifically, a husky. Yes, my SD12 who takes 6 hours to do basic chores then still hasn't taken out her trash (one out of FOUR) tasks she was given the ENTIRE WEEK. 

Apparently BM's toddler is allergic to dander and they even considered rehoming SD's cat for that reason so they can't have a dog. DH and I have 2 dogs, a male and female, almost 6 and almost 7. I get it, cats don't need to be walked and only have a litter box. SD says she wants her "own dog". 

We are not mothers.. Or even close

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Sorry to beat a dead horse, but even churches say so! Ok, maybe I'm being dramatic, but in service yesterday morning, they asked all of the "mothers" to stand up. The pastor asked moms, adopted moms, moms who miscarried or had stillbirths, or mothers who have lost their children to stand. DH turned to me and said "you're a SM". I refused to stand and ignored him.

I'll bet $10 million bucks that SM's day is NOT acknowledged next week. Nay, $1 billion! Even Christians don't think that SMs are motherly figures.

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